Daily Boost | Daily Coaching and Motivation

Daily Boost | Daily Coaching and Motivation Podcast

Get the Coaching you need, the results you want, and the success you deserve with the Daily Boost. Every 9-minute Daily Boost will help you Clarify your purpose, breakthrough obstacles, and stay motivated. You’ll get everything you need help you get what you want in life. Discover your purpose and WHY... Take control of your schedule... Get focused... and Eliminate distraction... Stop procrastinating... reduce stress and find more happiness. As the Host of the Daily Boost, Scott Smith brings a unique, straight talking, and humorous, coaching and motivation style. He make listening fun, interesting - and with over 30 million downloads, the Daily Boost has proven to be highly effective. Listen to the Daily Boost is available every Monday on iTunes, Spotify, Radio.com and others. Join our Daily Boost Premium Coaching program and get it Monday through Friday at https://motivationtomove.com.

Release Stress With Grounded Logic
Release Stress With Grounded Logic Are you feeling a little more stressed than you usual? I have a time-proven and very human way of releasing or at least managing your stress. If you can pause your mind from spinning for a few minutes, try this: 1) Recognize that you are viewing your current situation from an emotional state-of-mind. We all do. However, significant decisions rarely come from emotions. 2) While paused, gather all facts that are driving how you feel. The goal is to understand what is going o...

7 Rules to Life-Long Happiness
7 Rules to Life-Long Happiness I'm a fan of Stoic Philosophy. While it may be over 2,000 years old, its practicality is still useful. These rules to live by will help you have a happier life: 1. If you're going to learn and succeed, be humble. There is always someone smarter, more successful, and wiser.  2. Find the right scene. Choose your friends and situations. If you want to rise in life, you can't allow yourself to be held down by others. 3. Protect your time. Seneca said, "We're tight-fisted with prop...

4-Question To Ask Before Starting Any Goal
4-Question To Ask Before Starting Any Goal Do you have dreams of what you want for the future? Have you ever wondered your inner-voice will lead you in the right direction? These four questions will help sort out everything for you: 1) What is it? Do you understand exactly what you want? 2) How does it work? How will you go about reaching your goal? What will likely be the outcome? 3) Can you do it? Is your plan reasonable? Do you have the time, skills, money? 4) Are you sure? If you are willing to put in t...


Self-Made Success Requires No Permission
Self-Made Success Requires No Permission The year 2020 has proven to be a never-ending challenge for many. It has also confirmed that having control of your mindset and actions are now pivotal traits. I've worked with thousands of people who find themselves against a wall and stuck in neutral. Two things always happened: 1) Through no fault of their own, everything familiar was no longer. They know they need to pivot but are frozen. 2) Not knowing which way to go, they were waiting for permission to get sta...

Busting Through Limiting Beliefs
Busting Through Limiting Beliefs Have you ever had the feeling that something is holding you back? You have limiting beliefs. You were not born with limiting beliefs. Your experiences have installed a belief system within you. It serves as your guide in everything you do. The next time you find yourself unable to move forward, try these steps: 1) Identify the thought or behavior that is blocking you. In today’s busy world, that can be a challenge. Catch yourself in the act, pause, and identify what you are ...

Reinventing Yourself Now
Reinventing Yourself Now Change is one of those things that happens over time for most people. Sometimes you have no choice. If the past few months' events have you thinking about tweaking your life - I have a couple of suggestions to get you started. 1) No matter what dreams you hold, be sure to inventory the good, bad, and ugly of your current situation. You can't move forward if you don't know where you are starting. Don't be afraid. Information is power. 2) Next, decide WHAT you want and paint a picture...


You Are In Control of Your Happiness
You Are In Control of Your Happiness What would you say if I told you that being happier is within your control and has nothing to do with your mindset? A study from Dartmouth College found that most people are happy before they turn 18 and after 60 years of age. In between is where you ride the happiness roller coaster. How do you get off? It turns out that being happier comes down to three things: 1) Control. People who have a feeling of control in their lives tend to be happier in general. 2) Education. ...

Are You a Rock Star or Member of The Band?
Are You a Rock Star or Member of The Band? I have a question for you -  Are you a Rock Star or a member of the band? Either is okay, but it sure helps to know which Role you play while you are moving toward your goals. I remember talking with my Son after graduation. He had set his sights on becoming a Rock Star. Now, as a Dad who had BIG dreams and hard-won experience, I knew I had to give him perspective. So I asked - Are you willing to do what it takes to rise to the top? And if you don’t get what you wa...

Happiness is Like Shopping For a New Home
Happiness is Like Shopping For a New Home Two years ago, a friend called to let me know she found the home she was going to live in forever. Now she’s shopping again. When I heard the story of her search, it sounded familiar. Whether it’s a home, happiness, or anything else, it always seems to go like this - You want something different - although you may not know what you mean by that. You settle into “I’ll know it when I see it” mode and start exploring. Your search becomes all-consuming and begins to str...


Talk Yourself Into Success
Talk Yourself Into Success How much better would your day be if you knew what surprises were lurking around the corner? While you can’t predict everything, you can prepare for most things using “How Do I Feel Strategy Sessions.” Here’s how it works: 1) Take a few minutes and review what’s going on in your life. Your job. Your vacations. Your relationships. Your goal is to recognize what is likely to need your attention. 2) Now, think through every possible scenario and outcome for each item on your list. Im...

Amping Up Your Productivity
Amping Up Your Productivity Do you ever run out of day before you run out of To-Dos? Getting what you want in life if often blocked by simple habits that are getting in your way. There are two that everybody tends to miss: 1) The first productivity super-charger is to understand that tomorrow begins today. Planning ahead and setting your path is vital to reach your desired outcome. 2) The second takes a few minutes in the morning before you get busy. The goal is to ground yourself, review your days' plan, a...

Validating Your Goals
Validating Your Goals Have you ever found yourself setting a goal and then pushing the pause button? When my clients are revved up, excited, and not moving, the first thing I do is validate their goal by asking: 1) Do you know what your goal looks like and believe you can attain it? 2) Do you have a roadmap for achieving your goal? 3) Are the steps within your roadmap sufficient to reach your goal? Number three is the most critical indicator. An example would be a goal of losing 100 pounds in a year - with ...


Get Momentum With One Question
Get Momentum With One Question Have you been busier than ever or sidelined waiting for life to continue these last few months? You’re not alone. Most people are feeling off-balance, unfocused, and lacking direction and momentum. When I feel momentum slow, I have a favorite question I ask myself and others who need a boost - What CAN I do? Are you willing to ask? Are you ready to accept the answer no matter how small? No matter how big or scary? If so, you will free yourself from being stuck, and a path will...

Get Momentum With One Question
Get Momentum With One Question Have you been busier than ever or sidelined waiting for life to continue these last few months? You’re not alone. Most people are feeling off-balance, unfocused, and lacking direction and momentum. When I feel momentum slow, I have a favorite question I ask myself and others who need a boost - What CAN I do? Are you willing to ask? Are you ready to accept the answer no matter how small? No matter how big or scary? If so, you will free yourself from being stuck, and a path will...

Reach Your Goals Faster
Reach Your Goals Faster Success in business and life quickly comes down to simple focus and common sense. Here are three kick-starting questions that will help keep you get there fast: 1) What exactly do you want from your job, business, family, or life? What should it provide you? 2) What is the absolute minimum necessary you need to reach your goal? 3) What is the fastest and easiest path to get it done? Every day your job is to focus your activity on the next step in front of you, what is essential, and ...


Reach Your Goals Faster
Reach Your Goals Faster Success in business and life quickly comes down to simple focus and common sense. Here are three kick-starting questions that will help keep you get there fast: 1) What exactly do you want from your job, business, family, or life? What should it provide you? 2) What is the absolute minimum necessary you need to reach your goal? 3) What is the fastest and easiest path to get it done? Every day your job is to focus your activity on the next step in front of you, what is essential, and ...

Happiness Starts Today
Happiness Starts Today Do you ever wake up in the morning and jump straight into your To-Do list?  During times like these, it's easy to lose track of the big picture. Worse, to lose track of where you were heading. That's why we do our Homework on Monday. It's a powerful way to keep an eye on what is essential in your life while you get the day-to-day stuff done. Here's how to do it: 1) Check-in with the 'Roles' and 'Goals' you have in your life. Do you like what you have or do you need to make a change? D...

Setting and Understanding Expectation
Setting and Understanding Expectation Imagine how your life would improve if everybody in your world understood what to expect. Expectations are powerful. Pay attention to these three: 1) What do you expect of yourself? You get to decide how you approach the world. 2) What do you expect of others? Clearly, understand what you expect of others. That allows you to avoid surprises - and toxic relationships. 3) What do others expect of you? When you let others know what they can expect of you - and walk your ta...


Removing Blocks and Frustration
Removing Blocks and Frustration When life gets in the way, do you get frustrated about being blocked?  I learned a long time ago that getting blocked is an everyday occurrence. The bigger my goals, the more blocks would arrive. I could either live with endless frustrations or find a better way. It came down to  understanding: 1) Blocks have nothing to do with who you are. Self-inflicted or caused by others, they still have nothing to do with you as a person. 2) If you want something, there is always a way t...

Should You Master Mind?
Should You Master Mind? In 1938 Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich" popularized the concept of a Master Mind. Not a character in an Austin Powers movie, but the true path to success for anybody who wants it. According to Hill, a Master Mind is "the coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people, for the attainment of a definite purpose." It gets better. "No two minds ever come together without thereby creating a third, invisible, intangible force, which may be lik...

How to Dream BIG
How to Dream BIG Do you still dream of what you will be when you grow up?  Do those visions keep popping into your head?  If that’s the case, what’s your BIG, AWESOME, MOTIVATING, MISSION? BAM! What dreams excite you and give you a feeling of happiness? BAM! What scares you - and excites you? BAM! What makes you smile and say, “If I could only get myself to…” BAM! Take a few minutes and figure out your BAM! Then stand up, take a step, and repeat!  Keep going until you get what you want. Oh - there’s no need...


How To Stay Focused on What You Want
How To Stay Focused on What You Want As a child, the most important thing on my mind was heading out the door for an endless adventure. It usually ended in a game of Hide-And-Seek. As we grow into adults, we tend to have other important items that distract us and our days. Eat, sleep, pay bills, feed the dog, take care of the kids, mow the lawn. We stay busy until we realize - Since when did day-to-day tasks become more important than life-long dreams? Steven Covey reminded us of the power of focusing on wh...

Release Stress With Structure
Release Stress With Structure Would you like to have less stress in your life and more fun? Of course, you would. But how is that possible in today’s world? In my life, I’ve encountered two approaches to managing stress that always appear: 1) Many people blow off stress by acting spontaneously and doing something crazy. 2) Others create a constant routine and build a predictable structure into their lives.  Studies support the effectiveness of choosing either. When you combine both is where the fun happens....

Are You Blocking Your Happiness?
Are You Blocking Your Happiness? Is there something in your life that you are resisting? The old saying, "What you resist will persist" is always at play. It is a potent force in both enhancing and debilitating ways. In my life, I have learned the root cause of anything I resist is either fear of change or misdirected focus. Others say, “I haven't learned my lesson." In any case, the solution has always been: 1) Identify the unwanted issue that is persisting. 2) Identify what the desire instead of the probl...


How To Figure Out What You Want
How To Figure Out What You Want What if there was a magic formula for figuring out what to do next? I prefer to think of it as resetting your mind and re-discovering yourself. Most people are living in a continual state of craziness. 20 years later, they realize they have no idea what makes them happy. Worse, they have no idea how to get off the carousel and reset. If that’s you, try this: 1) Slow down and make space. The secret to finding YOU is spending time with YOU. 2) Take care of yourself and allow th...

Transformation Happens in Stages
Transformation Happens in Stages Is there something you would like to transform about your life? These days you are not alone. Stop smoking, lose weight, get a better job - or another job? Transformation always follows the same predictable stages: Stage 1: Pre-contemplation. This stage appears when an idea pops into your head for the first time. Stage 2: Contemplation. This middle ground is where most folks get stuck. It can go on for a lifetime. Stage 3: Determination. Moving past contemplation, you make u...

Are You Growing or Dying?
Are You Growing or Dying? Every minute of the day, your body, mind, and spirit are in a continual state of growing or dying. You are either expanding or contracting. On the surface, there are two choices: 1) You choose to expand and make your life and world-view bigger, brighter, and better. You decide to grow wiser, more content, and happier. 2) You choose or accept and contract. Everything gets smaller, dimmer, and less satisfying. If you dig deeper, you will find your choice is more of a combination of t...


Choosing To Thrive
Choosing To Thrive Thriving in chaos is something we hear a lot about these days. Few words hold power to ignite fear, excite hope, and get you to click a link like thrive and chaos. It's time to release yourself from all of that external drama. As a human, you have something magical inside. It will allow you to ground yourself, stay steady, and move forward. You can choose how you feel, chart your path, and take any action you desire. When you were born, you were hard wired to go beyond surviving. You were...

Plugging Into Simple
Plugging Into Simple A couple of days ago, I called a friend in Connecticut. I wanted to catch up and see if we could solve the problems of the world over the course of a phone call. When he picked up the phone, I asked what he was doing to save the world? Yes, I was somewhat joking, but his answer didn’t surprise me. “I only watch 20-minutes of news a day - enough to stay in touch. I write, get my work done, and help my kids with school. In general, I’m doing everything I can to stay grounded. You’re lucky...

Reducing Your Stress By Increasing Your Hope
Reducing Your Stress By Increasing Your Hope Unless you are living in a cave, you may have more Stress and less Hope in your life today than you did a short time ago. Pandemics can do that. So can life. Over the years, I’ve learned that stress is usually a result of fear. Feeling Stress of never getting off the hamster wheel. Feeling Stress fear from uncertainty. Feeling Stress from a lack of adequate information. It doesn’t matter where your fear originates. The solution is re-framing your mindset to see t...


Time To Reinvent Your Life?
Time To Reinvent Your Life? The past months have created a massive disruption in our lives. Why not taking advantage of the journey back to normal and switch things up? Whether you want a few tweaks or total reinvention - the process is the same: 1) You must first acknowledge something needs changing. Listen to your gut. 2) Be honest. Your inner thoughts and feelings are real. They are telling you what you desire. Honor them.  3) Clearly understand WHY you want to reinvent. It creates excitement the power t...

Reducing Stress By Changing Influence
Reducing Stress By Changing Influence Did you know that Influence is causing stress in your day? Your subconscious mind is listening. Opinions are forming. Thoughts are racing. Actions are happening, Usually without you knowing. The dictionary defines Influence as; the capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behavior, opinions, etc., of others. We are all influenced by much news. Too many Netflix movies. Non-stop social media, and the most signif...

Productivity While Working at Home
Productivity While Working at Home You may be finding yourself tweaking your productivity habits in the last few weeks. If you are working from your home with children around you, you are in for some significant challenges. As a guy who has maintained a home-based officer for the better part of 30 years, I have some advice: 1) Productivity is not about getting more done. It’s about being more efficient. When working at home, you will instantly have more productive hours than commuting to an office filled wi...


Why Mastery Equals Motivation
Why Mastery Equals Motivation Motivation is a magical feeling - until you can’t find it when you need it. But in good times or troubled, there is a simple trick you can use to get more motivated. It’s called Mastery. Mastery is a purposeful effort to master a skill at a high level. Doing so requires a decision, focus, determination, and lots of practice. Once you get started on your mastery journey, you will find yourself distracted from day-to-day. You will focus on your outcome. And as you get close to co...

Take a Leap of Faith
Take a Leap of Faith I wanted to revisit what Steve Harvey said that inspires me. If you have seen his teaching on the one thing you must-do if you want to be successful, you know that he says, "You must jump. If you want to be successful, you must jump into your dreams, take a leap of faith, and go for it." Many times we stand on the cliff of life and watch others enjoying the life you desire. They jumped, their parachute opened, and life is good. You must jump. When you finally decide to jump, your parach...

Moment of Change
Moment of Change A few months ago I wrote the words - Someday soon, a life event will rock your world.  A trusted friend will disappoint you. Your boss may deny the raise you deserve. A loved one may get sick. A pandemic may strike. Nothing is by chance.  Most life rocking events have been heading your way for a long time. They can leave you shattered. They can also open up an opportunity for a life-changing course correction. What are your dreams?  What have you been waiting to do? What’s been holding you ...


Neutralizing Negative Thoughts
Neutralizing Negative Thoughts In times like these, it's easy to find yourself with more negative thoughts than usual. When I was training my Pilot Certificate, I was surprised by the emphasis put on the health of a pilots' state of mind. Negative thoughts are hazardous to flying - and life in general. The next time you are feeling a negative thought nudging its way into your day, try this: 1) Recognize it. The first step toward neutralizing hazardous negative thinking is to recognize it. 2) Label it. Ident...

Simplify. Simplify. Simplify.
Simplify. Simplify. Simplify. The Great Pandemic Pause, most folks are finding themselves in a simpler world. With a few exceptions, everything is slower. There seems to be more time in the day. The rush of what used to be our day-to-day seems distant. Is that such a bad thing? When the storm passes, before we reignite our lives, why not consider lessons from a few smart people of the past. "Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication." ~ Leonardo da Vinci "Life is simple, but we insist on making it complicat...

Change Yourself. Change Everything Else.
Change Yourself. Change Everything Else. People have always sought change for themselves, their life, or the world. If you want to change, there is a constant truth; you must change before anything else changes. Many smart folks agree - Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” Leo Tolstoy, “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” What about Albert Einstein?  “The world, as we have created, is a process of our thinking. It cannot be change...


Change Yourself. Change Everything Else.
Change Yourself. Change Everything Else. People have always sought change for themselves, their life, or the world. If you want to change, there is a constant truth; you must change before anything else changes. Many smart folks agree - Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” Leo Tolstoy, “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” What about Albert Einstein?  “The world, as we have created, is a process of our thinking. It cannot be change...

Maintaining Self Discipline When Bored
Maintaining Self Discipline When Bored If you ask any successful person what is most important to achieving goals, they will say two things: 1) Self-Discipline is number one. If you can’t get yourself to do what is necessary, nobody will do it for you. 2) The person with the most self-discipline wins. At the gym, office, school, everywhere. The person who puts in the effort always rises to the top. Since most of us are in self-quarantine at home, now it might be useful to master self-discipline. 1) Decide o...


Are You in a Hypnotic State?
Are You in a Hypnotic State? If you've been feeling upended these past few weeks, there might be a good reason. In working with clients over the years, I recognized an interesting behavior. When our conversations began, their minds were drifting. They are listening but not paying attention. To get them to re-focus, I utilized a "Pattern Interruption" to alter their current state of mind. I could tell them a joke, ask a question, or give surprise news. Once delivered, their state of mind instantly shifts int...

Extraordinary Opportunity Around The Corner
Extraordinary Opportunity Around The Corner It happens when your daily experience changes. Bam! What? Mind blown! No worries. I’ll be fine. Really? Hmm. I’m fine. Where was I? Stoic Philosophy tells us lack of information causes fear. Information overload leads to paralysis. Adequate information allows you to calm yourself. Acceptance leads to planning, action, and re-building better than ever. Yes, we are in the middle of the storm and have a long way to go. Look beyond the noise. Extraordinary, once-in-a-...

Checking IN is Better Than Checking OUT
Checking IN is Better Than Checking OUT My phone rang at 10:18 this morning. A long-time listener from San Bernardino, California, was calling to check in with me. He said, "It's in times like these that we need to check in with folks. You're part of my life every day. I wanted to see how you were doing." I told him I was okay and how much I appreciated his energy boost. We enjoyed a very neighborly conversion - and we live more 2000 miles apart. His call reminded me of something I love to do. Over the year...


Operation Reinvention: Better and Beyond
Operation Reinvention: Better and Beyond I woke up this morning with a thought running through my mind and pulsing through my veins. I couldn't stay in bed any longer. How many closets can you organize? How many Netflix programs can you binge? How long will people wait for others to say it's okay for them to get with their lives? Everything you have built in your life happened when you found the courage to rally fear, anger, and confusion into motivation and action. Everything. Since 2006 I have taught one ...

Pause. Prepare. Protect.
Pause. Prepare. Protect. Life is a beautiful and surprising experience, but have you noticed that in good times or bad, there is always be something that will catch you off guard? It will also require an immediate response. It could be a potential customer who wants to do business and need prompt attention. It may be a health emergency. In any case, a quick response is your friend. But what do you after the initial surprise settles? 1) Pause. Take a step back and take a breath. It’s time to get a 30,000-foo...

Building a Solid Foundation During a Crisis
In a time of crisis, a solid foundation of basic needs is a great way to calm your mind. In 1954, Abraham Maslow released his Hierarchy of Needs theory.  Since everything in life is being turned upside down - it might be a good time to get back to basics. Maslow called them deficiency needs (D-Needs): 1) Provide for your physiological needs. Food, clothing, shelter, money, everything that you need.  2) Make sure you feel safe. Personally, emotionally, financially, health and well-being, and against accident...


CoronaDRIVE US!
I have a different Daily Nugget today. I write and record a week in advance. Since I last reached out to you, all hell seems to have broken loose in America - and around the world. Yes, it was on its way before. We all saw it coming. But its exponential speed tossed a lot of folks lives into disarray overnight. Mine too. Like many folks, I have a full life and run a small business. Other people are counting on my support. I also have the honor and responsibility of tens of thousands of people listening ev...

CoronaDRIVE US!
I have a different Daily Nugget today. I write and record a week in advance. Since I last reached out to you, all hell seems to have broken loose in America - and around the world. Yes, it was on its way before. We all saw it coming. But its exponential speed tossed a lot of folks lives into disarray overnight. Mine too. Like many folks, I have a full life and run a small business. Other people are counting on my support. I also have the honor and responsibility of tens of thousands of people listening ev...

Your Reward For Hard Work
Your Reward For Hard Work Gary Vaynerchuk, Wine Library, Crush it, and more made changes in his life. I've always said, "The reward for success is more work." That's what happened to Gary.  When I began MTM, I decided not to base my life as a speaker on the road because my imagination told me it would be fun. I knew better. In Gary's case, he has enjoyed success with speaking, mentoring, and teaching but there was a problem. He wasn't engaging and doing. For a guy who likes to be in the trenches, he wasn't ...


How To Break Bad Habits
How To Break Bad Habits Have you struggled to break a habit? Bad habits are not good. They will mess up your day. They are also not permanent. You weren’t born with bad habits, and you are not required under penalty of law to keep bad habits. Since there’s no real reason to keep bad habits, let’s replace them the easy way. Nobody likes to give up what’s comfortable - even if it’s not serving you. Instead, start a new behavior and replace the bad before it mucks up your life again. Breaking bad habits is doi...

Endless Opportunity Mindset
Endless Opportunity Mindset Can you remember when you were starting in your career? Young, eager, driven, and likely, intimidated? You might have wondered how is it possible to reach your dreams with so many people and competition in the world?  Here's a mindset that has served me well: 1) Somewhere within all those people is a person who needs my help. They feel frustrated and desperate. But they don't know where to find me. 2) My job is to help them find me. When they do, they won't believe their luck. Th...

Stop Procrastinating The Easy Way
Stop Procrastinating The Easy Way Are you a member of the Procrastination Club?  Procrastination is the intentional and systematic postponement of an essential task.  Is that what you are doing? Even if you are putting things off, is it possible that you are not procrastinating? You may just be forcing yourself to do something you don't need or want to do.  Yes, you must complete tasks to get ahead in life. That's being responsible. However, if your list of un-done keeps getting longer, it might be time to ...


Stop Procrastinating The Easy Way
Stop Procrastinating The Easy Way Are you a member of the Procrastination Club?  Procrastination is the intentional and systematic postponement of an essential task.  Is that what you are doing? Even if you are putting things off, is it possible that you are not procrastinating? You may just be forcing yourself to do something you don't need or want to do.  Yes, you must complete tasks to get ahead in life. That's being responsible. However, if your list of un-done keeps getting longer, it might be time to ...

Great Relationships in Four Steps
Great Relationships in Four Steps Every day you navigate the world - which usually involves other people. Since the quality of your life is dependent on the quality of your relationships, it makes sense to understand how to develop a great rapport. Every great relationship follows 4 steps: 1) Curiosity. Everybody is curious about the people they meet. If you want to meet great people, be interesting. The more curious they are about you, the better. 2) Enlightenment. Once curiosity peaks, interest will be to...

Great Relationships in Four Steps
Great Relationships in Four Steps Every day you navigate the world - which usually involves other people. Since the quality of your life is dependent on the quality of your relationships, it makes sense to understand how to develop a great rapport. Every great relationship follows 4 steps: 1) Curiosity. Everybody is curious about the people they meet. If you want to meet great people, be interesting. The more curious they are about you, the better. 2) Enlightenment. Once curiosity peaks, interest will be to...


Calm Your Mind by Closing Loops
Calm Your Mind by Closing Loops Do you have thoughts bouncing around inside your head, keeping you awake at night, and driving you crazy? You are experiencing the attack of the Open Loop. Open Loops happens when a thought enters your mind, with no resolution.  Deadlines.  Lists.  Appointments.  Conversations. Anything that is allowed to sit in your mind will continue to race around like the cars at Daytona Speedway. The fix is to offload those items into a trusted place. You need to download your brain. Gat...

Why You Should Focus on ONE Thing
Why You Should Focus on ONE Thing When you apply the world’s simplest success recipe everything else will care of itself.  Stand up.  Take a step.  REPEAT! But how do you propel yourself for maximum forward momentum? In The One Thing, Gary Keller writes; “Success is sequential, not simultaneous.”  When you fuel yourself with focus your life will begin to move forward. Gary also gives a great question you can ask yourself to define your focus. “What’s the ONE Thing you can do such that by doing it everything...

Make Life Longer
Make Life Longer We all have the same hours and minutes in a day, but weeks and months seem to be passing faster than ever. If you want to know why it’s time to put on your lab coat. Einstein's theory of relativity states the rate at which time passes depends entirely on your speed and acceleration at any given moment. But we’re not talking about physics. We’re talking about technology and perception. New evidence suggests that constant use of technology is making your brains more efficient at processing in...


Make Life Longer
Make Life Longer We all have the same hours and minutes in a day, but weeks and months seem to be passing faster than ever. If you want to know why it’s time to put on your lab coat. Einstein's theory of relativity states the rate at which time passes depends entirely on your speed and acceleration at any given moment. But we’re not talking about physics. We’re talking about technology and perception. New evidence suggests that constant use of technology is making your brains more efficient at processing in...

Law of Attraction
Law of Attraction The Law of Attraction should be called Law of What You Think About Most. Like attracts like. What you think about, you get.  If you think, "I won't get it because I never do" - you are correct. Dreaming of something new while focusing on current problems is a sure way to keep spinning your wheels. The secret is to focus your attention and actions on what you want to attract. That will require a dedicated effort. Vision Boards, lists of goals, daily journaling are all great ways to stay on ...

Are you striving for something different?
Be Who You Are Are you striving for something different? I have a client who, after years of poor eating habits, had gained over 100 pounds. She decided to get healthy - and had no idea where to begin. My advice was simple. If your mind is telling you something you are doing is NOT who you are - give up what you are NOT. In her case, not exercising was making her somebody she didn’t want to be. Going to the gym wasn’t top of mind; it was just the first choice in the path to becoming herself. Are you not mak...


Break The Rules For More Productivity
Break The Rules For More Productivity Getting the most out of your day is a personal thing. Do you impose impossible and unenjoyable scheduling on yourself? It might be time to forget the rules. Frankly, your friends, family, and society don't always know what is best for you. Why go to the gym at 5 AM if that doesn’t work for you?  Is checking your email the first the morning a bad thing? What if you like getting it out of the way first thing? You will be happier and more productive when you schedule in a ...

Defining Healthy Relationships
Defining Healthy Relationships The quality of your life is a direct result of your relationships. Whether it's a personal, professional, or business relationship. There are three ways to play the relationship game. There is only one way to win. 1) All relationships begin with two independent individuals. If you remain independent, you will never connect. 2) Some relationships become co-dependent. Developing this kind of relationship means losing individuality. Isn't that what attracted you in the first plac...

Producing More Productivity
Producing More Productivity Are you find yourself needing to get more done? You might consider creating more productivity. The first rule of being more productive is deciding what is important to you. The second rule is to take control of your day. A few simple adjustments can change everything: 1) Say, “Yes” to yourself before you say it to others. Meetings, phone calls, casual conversations. If that doesn’t work, say “No” to anything not currently on your list. 2) Control where you focus your attention.  ...


How Do You Feel Strategy Sessions
How Do You Feel Strategy Sessions How much better would your day be if you always knew what surprises were lurking around the corner? While you can’t predict everything, you can prepare for most things using “How Do I Feel Strategy Sessions.” Here’s how it works: 1) Once a month, take a few minutes and review what’s going on in your life. Your job. Your vacations. Your relationships. Your goal is to recognize what is likely to require your attention. 2) As you form your list, think through every possible sc...

Get What You Want With Deep Work
Get What You Want With Deep Work I need to pass on a message. Your MIND misses you! I know you’ve been busy. Shopping for food, cleaning the garage, checking Facebook. Not to mention catching up on 500-hours of must-watch television on your DVR. That’s all great and makes time pass. However… If you would like to separate yourself from the masses and make your dreams come true, it’s time to embrace the power of Deep Work. Deep Work is eliminating all distractions and focusing on one purpose for a period. It ...

3 Steps To Getting The Success You Want
3 Steps To Getting The Success You Want Success is a funny word. Generic yet descriptive, success is different for everyone. Whatever success means to you, there is a fast-path way to get it: 1) Decide. Deciding to move in a new direction is scary - but it’s the only way to establish forward momentum. You must choose to cut off anything that is holding you back and focus on what you want. 2) Build. The rest of the world is living on auto-pilot. You will stand out when you put your head down, dig in, get to ...


You Can Learn a Lot From a Happy Dog
You Can Learn a Lot From a Happy Dog I have a friend named Jaxon that is so consistent and successful; he makes me a bit jealous. I know I shouldn’t be that way, but I can’t help it. Jaxon is not the most talented. He doesn’t work harder. He doesn’t get serious and stuffy. Win or lose, Jaxon always has a reason to celebrate, although he wins most of the time - then he takes a nap. My dog, Levi, likes Jaxon too. They compete together in dog agility competitions. Levi runs faster and wins more blue ribbons. ...

Being a Minimalist Might Not Make You Happy
Being a Minimalist Might Not Make You Happy I’ve always believed that less is more. A less complicated life is a good life. If that’s the case, you would think that in an age of tiny homes and minimalist attitudes everybody would be as happy as a clam. Over the years, I’ve learned happiness can be hidden somewhere within the stuff that makes up our crazy life. When you get rid of your stuff - you get rid of something that makes you happy. Is it possible that the things you love to complain about also make t...

Resist and It Will Persist
Resist and It Will Persist Is there something in your life that you are resisting? The old saying, "What you resist will persist" is always at play. It is a potent force in both enhancing and debilitating ways. In my life, I have learned the root cause of anything I resist is either fear of change or misdirected focus. Others say, "You haven't learned your lesson." In any case, the solution has always been: 1) Identify the unwanted issue that is persisting. 2) Identify what you want instead of the problem i...


Resist and It Will Persist
Resist and It Will Persist Is there something in your life that you are resisting? The old saying, "What you resist will persist" is always at play. It is a potent force in both enhancing and debilitating ways. In my life, I have learned the root cause of anything I resist is either fear of change or misdirected focus. Others say, "You haven't learned your lesson." In any case, the solution has always been: 1) Identify the unwanted issue that is persisting. 2) Identify what you want instead of the problem i...

How Happy People View The World
How Happy People View The World Did you know that happy people view the world differently? They don't wear rose-colored glasses. They have a better way: 1) Happy people accept that life brings problems.    2) Happy people recognize that problems are a privilege that comes with being alive. 3) Happy people get frustrated, but don't give up. Problems are normal. 4) Happy people accept responsibility for solving problems. 5) Happy people deal with anything life throws at them, get a good night's sleep, and do ...

How Happy People View The World
How Happy People View The World Did you know that happy people view the world differently? They don't wear rose-colored glasses. They have a better way: 1) Happy people accept that life brings problems.    2) Happy people recognize that problems are a privilege that comes with being alive. 3) Happy people get frustrated, but don't give up. Problems are normal. 4) Happy people accept responsibility for solving problems. 5) Happy people deal with anything life throws at them, get a good night's sleep, and do ...


What Kind of Motivation Do You Have?
What Kind of Motivation Do You Have? Have you ever wondered why some things and not others motivate you? The evolving Science of Motivation has your answer. In a nutshell, motivation is complicated and layered. If you didn’t already know that, you have felt it many times. But it all begins with 4 kinds of motivation: 1) Extrinsic motivation comes from outside of you. You do it because you are compelled to - usually by someone else. 2) Intrinsic motivation is done for internal and personal reasons. This can ...

What Kind of Motivation Do You Have?
What Kind of Motivation Do You Have? Have you ever wondered why some things and not others motivate you? The evolving Science of Motivation has your answer. In a nutshell, motivation is complicated and layered. If you didn’t already know that, you have felt it many times. But it all begins with 4 kinds of motivation: 1) Extrinsic motivation comes from outside of you. You do it because you are compelled to - usually by someone else. 2) Intrinsic motivation is done for internal and personal reasons. This can ...

Journal It and Burn It
Journal It and Burn It Is there something bothering you and you need to let it go? Do you need to forgive someone from your past or that time you put your foot in your mouth? How about finding a way the eliminate negative thoughts? There is a tried and true magical method of clearing your soul: 1) Scribble your thoughts on a piece of paper or fill an entire journal - it’s up to you. Getting your thoughts onto paper will make them real. You can deal with that. 2) Once you’ve dumped your worries, it’s time to...


Learn. Churn. Burn. Earn.
Learn. Churn. Burn. Earn. A few years ago, I was chatting with a friend about his business. He owned a struggling martial arts school and was crafting a master plan to grow in the coming year. Since every goal requires, learning, churning, burning, and earning - I had four questions: 1) How long do you think it will take to LEARN what it takes to succeed? 2) How long can you CHURN away while you work toward your goal? 3) Do you have resources to BURN? How long will your money last while you move forward?  4...

Practice Makes Perfect
Practice Makes Perfect It’s been said that Practice makes perfect. That might be true if you were able to practice perfectly. If that were the case, why would you need to practice? Practice does not make perfect. Practice makes permanent.  Practice bad thinking, and you will get all the bad thoughts you could ever want. Practice makes permanent. Practice bad manners and are sure to get better at being rude. Practice makes permanent. Practice bad relationship skills, and you are guaranteed to miss out on the...

One Thing You Must Do Every Day
One Thing You Must Do Every Day. I have a question for you. What is your ONE most important activity?  What is the ONE core activity that makes everything else fine? What is the ONE core activity that if you don’t do causes everything to fall apart? Many people focus on anything but the most critical activity in their life. They are usually surprised when things fall apart. Is it showing up for work on time or doing a great job at work? Could it be your unflinching attention to your family? Does your busine...


Turn Obstacles Into Opportunity
Turn Obstacles Into Opportunity Have you ever wondered how much easier things would be if you didn’t have to think so much? What if the future or your past didn’t matter? Imagine if you didn’t worry about the possessions, success, or drama of others? What would happen if you believed that YOU are in control?  Now you are starting to think like a Stoic Philosopher. Stoicism is about paring down and simplifying. They eliminate unproductive traits that define the majority of the population. One of the most com...

Making Space For Your Dreams
Making Space For Your Dreams John Lennon was famous for saying, "Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans." Over the years, I've found that folks tend to do what serves them best - at the moment. One thing I know for sure. Keeping yourself busy with day-to-day is a sure-fire way to make sure dreams stay dreams. It's also an exhausting way to live.  Are you ready to set yourself free? While you may not believe it, if you want something different in your life, all you need to do is start doi...

Living Without Self-Inflicted Drama
Living Without Self-Inflicted Drama Are you the kind of person who is always running around putting out fires - fires you set?  I think it is time that we take away your matches and lighter fluid. Here are a few things to think about: 1) If your life is non-stop drama, stress, and craziness, there is a chance that YOU are the cause. There is also a good chance that you don’t see it that way. 2) Living with your hair on fire will keep you busy that you can spend years wondering why you can’t get what you wan...


How To Make Sure Dreams Can Become Real
How To Make Sure Dreams Can Become Real Everybody has dreams. Daydreams, dreams while you sleep, and dreams of what you wish for the future. I’ve always believed that dreams are goals you have nurtured to become real in your life. But how do you know if the voice speaking to your heart will lead you in the right direction? I was reading Brant Pinvidic’s book, The 3-Minute Rule. His approach to better presentations happens to be my approach to goal validation. When an idea pops into your head, ask yourself f...

2020 Success Hacks (Part One)
2020 Success Hacks (Part One) As we begin a new year and decade, I thought I would give a little motivational tough love. Before I get going - No matter what you desire in 2020, remember that life and business are about solving problems. The bigger your dreams, the bigger your problems. If you want what nobody else has, you need to solve problems that nobody else will. So, how do you begin with a bang? 1) Decide what you want in 2020. Be specific. Anything less is what average people do. 2) Decide to pay th...

Why You Should Limit Your Choices
Why You Should Limit Your Choices Do you have too many choices in your life?  In 2005, Barry Schwartz wrote The Paradox of Choice. It challenged the traditional thinking that said, the way to maximum freedom is to maximize choice.  Too many choices are not necessarily a good thing. They can create paralysis. Not to mention, no matter what you choose, you'll always wonder if you could have done better. Here's my advice to you: 1) Limit choices. Narrow your list to items you have already experienced. Having e...


Do What Makes Your Heart Sing
Do What Makes Your Heart Sing Have you ever found yourself blissfully working for hours while time flies?  You are doing what makes your heart sing! Some folks say, “Do what you love, and you’ll never work another day in your life.”  That’s not true.  You’ll work harder than you ever have.  You’ll love every minute of it.  Your rewards will come like never before. It’s easy to dream of a less complicated life when all you’ve ever done is live a complicated life.  That's not the issue.  In fact, you'll find ...

Transitioning Your Life
Transitioning Your Life What’s the most exciting and scary thing you can do in life? Deciding to change everything and turn your dreams into reality will get your attention. What if you believe in your goal but lack the confidence to achieve your goal? Your day-to-day actions are a result of your Inner Guiding Values. They are the principles that define you. If you seek anything outside your routine, you are going to feel uncomfortable.  Transitional Values are your solution. They are how you re-define who ...

Believe in Yourself
It’s the time of year when the world begins to believe. Children always believe, but the power to believe lies within you too. Believing in yourself begins with basics: 1) Practice self-care. Building belief starts with you. When you spend time improving your life, you will open more doors. 2) Seek to expand. The larger your worldview, the more you will believe in yourself. Look outside yourself and explore what’s possible. It may be just steps from your comfort zone. 3) Test drive opportunities. Keep your ...


Opportunity Discrimination
Do you have too many options that you are having a difficult time choosing? There is a concept called "Opportunity Cost," which some consider a fancy word for "trade-off." In other words, every time you make a choice, there is a trade-off to consider. Another way is to change how you view potential opportunities with extreme discrimination. You can do that with one question - "Does this opportunity provide the fastest and most direct path for me to reach my goals?" Now, before we go on, it's easy to look at...

Living Without Personal Limitations
What if your life had no limitations and no consequences? What if you could do anything that you wanted without anything holding you back? Here’s the truth. Personal limitations and consequences are useful. Think of them as guard rails alongside a curvy mountain road. They keep you safe while you are on your journey. What if you find that you are playing it a little too safe and holding yourself back from your dreams? Another way is to think of as part of your internal belief and value system. You may need ...

How To Be Happier Using Natural Laws
Personal growth is a journey that is more fun when you follow the rules of Natural Law. 1) The Law of Vibration states that thoughts are things - one of the most potent forms of energy. What you think about, you bring about.  Pay attention to your thoughts. 2) Nothing exists without the opposite according to the Law of Polarity.  Love.  Hate.  Hot.  Cold.  Yin.  Yang.  Opposites are different forms of the same thing.  Embrace them. 3) The Law of Rhythm states life is a pendulum.  What swings left must swing...


Goal Setting For 2020
Goal Setting For 2020 The New Year will arrive before you know it. Here are a few questions to help with planning: 1)  What do I want to do? 2)  What do I want to have? 3)  Where do I want to go? 4)  What contribution do I want to make? 5)  What do I want to become? 6)  What do I want to learn? 7)  Who do I want to spend my time with? 8)  How much do I want to earn, save, and invest? 9)  How much time do I want for fun? 10)  What will I do to create optimum health? That’ll keep you busy....

Goal Setting For 2020
Goal Setting For 2020 The New Year will arrive before you know it. Here are a few questions to help with planning: 1)  What do I want to do? 2)  What do I want to have? 3)  Where do I want to go? 4)  What contribution do I want to make? 5)  What do I want to become? 6)  What do I want to learn? 7)  Who do I want to spend my time with? 8)  How much do I want to earn, save, and invest? 9)  How much time do I want for fun? 10)  What will I do to create optimum health? That’ll keep you busy....

How To Get More Done
How To Get More Done Have you noticed it?    As soon as you initiate action toward a goal - a million other distractions arrive in your life? Etch this into your mind: Activity creates activity. No matter what you choose to take on, your energy will attract everything you need to succeed. It will also draw everything is necessary to through you off track. Don't get stuck in neutral. Shift gears and accelerate yourself into massive imperfect action mode.  How? Remember that any activity will create more acti...


How To Get More Done
How To Get More Done Have you noticed it?    As soon as you initiate action toward a goal - a million other distractions arrive in your life? Etch this into your mind: Activity creates activity. No matter what you choose to take on, your energy will attract everything you need to succeed. It will also draw everything is necessary to through you off track. Don't get stuck in neutral. Shift gears and accelerate yourself into massive imperfect action mode.  How? Remember that any activity will create more acti...

Time To Step Up?
Time To Step Up? Imagine how you would feel if everything is perfect in your life - yet it feels like there is more. Is it time to step up? You’ve spent your entire life rising to the next level in the pursuit of success and happiness. Maybe you have arrived. Maybe you haven’t. In either case, the time will come that things don’t feel the same. Yes. It’s time to step up. No matter what happens in your life. No matter who comes into your life. Everything exists for a reason and a season. Letting one thing go...

Time To Step Up?
Time To Step Up? Imagine how you would feel if everything is perfect in your life - yet it feels like there is more. Is it time to step up? You’ve spent your entire life rising to the next level in the pursuit of success and happiness. Maybe you have arrived. Maybe you haven’t. In either case, the time will come that things don’t feel the same. Yes. It’s time to step up. No matter what happens in your life. No matter who comes into your life. Everything exists for a reason and a season. Letting one thing go...


Set Yourself Free
Set Yourself Free John Lennon was famous for saying, "Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans." Over the years, I've found that folks tend to ACT and DO on what serves them best. And they do it while dreaming and planning for something else. It's an exhausting way to live. You can set yourself free by making a simple decision. If you want something different, do it now!  If you can't get yourself to do it, consider that it may not be as relevant to you as you think. If that's the case, ge...

How To Succeed With Any Goal
How To Succeed With Any Goal Setting Goals is the most powerful method of getting what you want. It is the power of your mind - activated. Here’s how: 1) Decide what you want and when you want to get it. 2) Decide when you will start and when you will finish. 3) Decide how you will begin and how you will maintain your momentum. Then you must get to work. Limit anything and anybody that has a distracting influence on you. You must get to work. Commit to overcoming any obstacle that gets in your way. You must...

How To Connect With Conversations
How To Connect With Conversations Today you are going to have opportunities to communicate.  Here’s how to create conversations that connect: 1) Meet folks where they are. Pay attention to how their day is going. Step into their NOW. 2) Establishing something in common. “Wow! Has this day been crazy for you too?” 3) Establish an undeniable truth. “I promise it’s going to get crazier with the holidays coming.” 4) Move toward an idea that everybody can agree. “Holidays are coming fast. We should get ahead of ...


Handing Yourself. Handling Others.
Handing Yourself. Handling Others. One of my hobbies is running my Australian Shepard, Levi, in agility competitions. When people see us run, their first comment is almost always - "I love how your dog knows where do go. How did you teach him to follow the numbers on the course?" I always smile. No. Levi does not follow numbers. He relies on me, his Handler, to tell him where to go. If I don't communicate my intention, he will go off course and be eliminated. In the agility world, we like to say, "Every dog...

4 Questions For Better Decision Making
4 Questions For Better Decision Making Do you ever have difficulty making decisions?  In the next 60 seconds, you can harness the most potent and easy to use decision-making tool I have ever found. Forget the old "Pro and Con" list your Mom and Dad taught you.  It’s time for a new approach. The next time you find yourself challenged use Quantum Linguistics.  Ask yourself these 4 simple questions to solve your problem: What would happen if I DID? What would happen if I DIDN'T? What wouldn't happen if I DID? ...

4 Questions For Better Decision Making
4 Questions For Better Decision Making Do you ever have difficulty making decisions?  In the next 60 seconds, you can harness the most potent and easy to use decision-making tool I have ever found. Forget the old "Pro and Con" list your Mom and Dad taught you.  It’s time for a new approach. The next time you find yourself challenged use Quantum Linguistics.  Ask yourself these 4 simple questions to solve your problem: What would happen if I DID? What would happen if I DIDN'T? What wouldn't happen if I DID? ...


No More Information Overload
No More Information Overload Are you caught up in information overload that is driving you crazy? Too much information leads to confusion and a lack of clarity - a recipe for frustration. It’s time to embrace Adequate Information in all aspects of your life. Your goal should be to sift and sort until you discover only the information you need to move forward. Ignore everything else. It’s noise. Success comes from clarity, adequate information, leverage, and ritualistically repeating what works....

Steps of Change
Steps of Change Happiness in life is about getting what you want and keeping what you love. The process always follows these four steps: 1) Decision: Everything begins with a decision to move in a new direction. The more meaningful your decision, the more likely you will take action. 2) Definition: Aimless wandering toward your dream is no fun. Defining your path will get you there quickly. 3) Deployment: Putting your plan into action separates a truly fulfilling life from a frustrating life. 4) Defense: On...

Steps of Change
Steps of Change Happiness in life is about getting what you want and keeping what you love. The process always follows these four steps: 1) Decision: Everything begins with a decision to move in a new direction. The more meaningful your decision, the more likely you will take action. 2) Definition: Aimless wandering toward your dream is no fun. Defining your path will get you there quickly. 3) Deployment: Putting your plan into action separates a truly fulfilling life from a frustrating life. 4) Defense: On...


How To Find Yourself
How To Find Yourself Are you the kind of person who can't decide what to do with your life? Are you fearful of pulling the trigger and going for it? It can be scary to start something new - especially if you don't know how well you'll like your new lifestyle. Why not explore the possibilities with no commitment? Instead of charging forward into the unknown, why not take the fear away and test your new experience first? If it's a keeper, keep moving in that direction. If not, test something else. Most everyt...

Most Productive Week Ever
Most Productive Week Ever What if you could have the most productive week ever? The solution is simple; get ahead of the game before the game begins. It works like this: 1) List your short and long-term goals.  2) Decide what past achievements you enjoy and that you want to continue as you pursue new adventures. 3) Decide what future goals you are ready to 'activate' and achieve - NOW! 4) Next week begins this week. Thursday is your new planning day. That's when you plan how your goals will fit into next we...

9 Personal Development Principles You Need
9 Personal Development Principles You Need You may have heard that you will elevate your station in life to the degree that you elevate yourself. Personal Development is how you do that. Here are some easy ideas to move you forward: 1) Acknowledge that all emotions come from within you. 2) Seek out someone you respect. Use them to stay honest. 3) Recognize there is life after failure. 4) Read purposefully. Apply your knowledge. 5) Challenge yourself to be brutally honest. 6) Reflect on what you spend the mo...


9 Personal Development Principles You Need
9 Personal Development Principles You Need You may have heard that you will elevate your station in life to the degree that you elevate yourself. Personal Development is how you do that. Here are some easy ideas to move you forward: 1) Acknowledge that all emotions come from within you. 2) Seek out someone you respect. Use them to stay honest. 3) Recognize there is life after failure. 4) Read purposefully. Apply your knowledge. 5) Challenge yourself to be brutally honest. 6) Reflect on what you spend the mo...

Don’t Like Who You Are? Change Who You Are!
If you are unhappy with who you have become in life, there is a simple question that will redirect you - What do you want to be different than it is now? Every choice you have made has put you where you are. If you want something different, all you have to do is make different choices. Yes, it is that simple. Different choices mean a different direction. A whole new world is waiting for you. Who will you become today?...

Emotional Trigger Mastery
Do you ever find yourself emotionally triggered and tossed off track for the entire day? You are an emotional person. When emotions keep you from logically navigating your day, problems begin. How do you control being triggered? 1) Identify what triggers a response that you want or don’t want to experience.  2) Decide how you want to feel when triggered. Make a plan to respond. 3) The next time you are triggered, recognize what is happening and execute your plan. Identify. Decide. Respond. The more you catc...


Emotional Trigger Mastery
Do you ever find yourself emotionally triggered and tossed off track for the entire day? You are an emotional person. When emotions keep you from logically navigating your day, problems begin. How do you control being triggered? 1) Identify what triggers a response that you want or don’t want to experience.  2) Decide how you want to feel when triggered. Make a plan to respond. 3) The next time you are triggered, recognize what is happening and execute your plan. Identify. Decide. Respond. The more you catc...

Eliminate Distraction The Easy Way
Getting what you want in life requires one thing. Focus. It's a simple fact; you get what you focus on.  But how do you get focused when distraction is everywhere? That’s is easy. If you feel like you are wondering and wobbling on your life journey, there are two questions you should ask: 1) Am I wondering and wobbling because that's what I want to do? 2) If not, what SHOULD I be focusing on right now? Distractions are the same as a focus - only pointed in the wrong direction. A quick adjustment is all it t...

Steps of Change
Is there something you would like to change about your life? Stop smoking, lose weight, get a better job? No matter what you choose, you will always climb the steps of change. Stage One: Known as Pre-contemplation. This stage appears when an idea pops into your head for the first time. Stage Two: Contemplation. This middle ground is where most folks get stuck. It can go on for a lifetime. Stage Three: Determination. You’ve made up your mind and begin preparing for what is to come. Stage Four: You get starte...


5-Minute Focus
It's the world's simplest recipe for success; Stand up, take a step, REPEAT!  A member wrote asking the best use of that simple advice: 1) Stop what you are doing. Block out everything. Focus on YOU. 2) Find a place where nobody will interrupt you for 5 minutes. 3) Ask yourself, "How is my life going?" Open your mind and let your thoughts flow into the different areas and roles of your life. Bring them into focus. 4) For things going well, continue your momentum. For areas of concern, ask," What CAN I do to...

5-Minute Focus
It's the world's simplest recipe for success; Stand up, take a step, REPEAT!  A member wrote asking the best use of that simple advice: 1) Stop what you are doing. Block out everything. Focus on YOU. 2) Find a place where nobody will interrupt you for 5 minutes. 3) Ask yourself, "How is my life going?" Open your mind and let your thoughts flow into the different areas and roles of your life. Bring them into focus. 4) For things going well, continue your momentum. For areas of concern, ask," What CAN I do to...

No Stress To-Do List
Are you spending your day chasing checkmarks? Are you trying to finish your never-ending to To-Do List? Most people tend to add to their list without thinking much about it. Then they check their list to remind them how much they haven’t done. That will ruin your day. A better way is to think of your list as “Did-I-Do-It-List.” While it may seem the same, there is an important difference. Instead of feeling bound to your list, your new mindset is simple. Check your list to make sure you did what you planned...


How To Feel 16 Again
Growing up, sure can get in the way of your dreams. It’s sad how so many goals get pushed aside for daily responsibilities.  Think about this - When you were 16, the only freedoms you enjoyed were what your parents allowed. When you grow up, you have total freedom and complete control. If you could live today like you were 16, it might look like this - You would go to school and educate yourself. Your friends would be real friends. Not just people you met at the office. You would dream about your future. Yo...

Perfect Day. Perfect Life.
What if every day, for the rest of your life, was perfect? Your subconscious mind is a beautiful thing. You can engage its power to design your life to be exactly how you imagine. Here’s how: 1) Write down an event-by-event vision of what your perfect day would be. Yes, it’s a fantasy - for now. 2) There are no rules. No limitations. No consequences. Don’t be shy. Be honest about what you want. 3) Believe it can be yours! You deserve it. If you follow these steps, your sub-conscious mind seeks ways to make ...

Figuring Out Your One Thing
In the movie “City Slickers,” Mitch was on a mission to find purpose - as if there was a single solution for everybody.  That’s when he met a cowboy with simple yet straightforward advice - Curly: Do you know what the secret of life is? [holds up one finger] This. Mitch: Your finger? Curly: One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that, and the rest don’t mean &*#@. Mitch: But, what is the “one thing?” Curly: That’s what you have to find out. Most folks spend their lives searching outside themselves while wh...


Doing More Than You Must For Success
Earl Nightingale produced “The Strangest Secret” to motivate his insurance company sales force.  It is now a motivational standard. The secret is simple: 1) You become what you think. 2) You must pay the prices. 3) You must control your thoughts. 4) Cutaway the limitations of your mind. 5) Set a clearly defined goal.  6) Act promptly when your path is clear. 7) Save at least 10% of every dollar. What do you want more than anything else?  Do more than you must. Do more than anybody else. Do it better than an...

Somewhere Leads to Somewhere
Have you ever wondered how to change the direction of anything in your life? If Where you live, your job, your relationship? It doesn’t matter where you are or where you want to go.  The process is the same. And it doesn’t require dramatic contortions in your life to make it happen. It’s simple. You have arrived somewhere, and you want to go somewhere else.  Even if you don’t know how you got where you are, point yourself in a general direction and start taking action. You’ll figure it out. The path from so...

Somewhere Leads to Somewhere
Have you ever wondered how to change the direction of anything in your life? If Where you live, your job, your relationship? It doesn’t matter where you are or where you want to go.  The process is the same. And it doesn’t require dramatic contortions in your life to make it happen. It’s simple. You have arrived somewhere, and you want to go somewhere else.  Even if you don’t know how you got where you are, point yourself in a general direction and start taking action. You’ll figure it out. The path from so...


Is Your Future Slipping Away?
Have you noticed how everybody is running so fast these days? Are they living in the moment? Are they dwelling on the past? Are they dreaming of the future - and waiting for it to arrive? Any human would experience a combination of all three every day. That's normal as long as it doesn't get in the way of living. A decade ago, my first wife passed away from Cancer. She was 46 and too young to die. I was too young to be a widower. My children too young to lose their Mom.  While challenging, our family had an...

Is Your Future Slipping Away?
Have you noticed how everybody is running so fast these days? Are they living in the moment? Are they dwelling on the past? Are they dreaming of the future - and waiting for it to arrive? Any human would experience a combination of all three every day. That's normal as long as it doesn't get in the way of living. A decade ago, my first wife passed away from Cancer. She was 46 and too young to die. I was too young to be a widower. My children too young to lose their Mom.  While challenging, our family had an...

Ultimate Time Management
It seems everybody is obsessed with Time Management. Who do we think we are? The Boss of Time? The truth is, there is not one person on this planet who has the power to manage Time. No matter how strong you are, Time will not bend to your command.  Whether you sit around and do nothing or push hard toward your goals, Time will remain constant. What you can manage is YOU. The most successful, relaxed, and happy people understand that it’s up to them to bend themselves to fit Time. They hold space in their li...


Ultimate Time Management
It seems everybody is obsessed with Time Management. Who do we think we are? The Boss of Time? The truth is, there is not one person on this planet who has the power to manage Time. No matter how strong you are, Time will not bend to your command.  Whether you sit around and do nothing or push hard toward your goals, Time will remain constant. What you can manage is YOU. The most successful, relaxed, and happy people understand that it’s up to them to bend themselves to fit Time. They hold space in their li...

Procrastination Distraction Condition
Do you ever feel like you are procrastinating? What if I were to tell you that you are not, and there is an easy fix. It’s hard to tell how many dreams have are being crushed from the inability to get things done. Procrastination is nothing more than a distraction from current life conditions. Decide that your current circumstances are no longer acceptable, you stop procrastinating. What if there was something deeper? What if you were filling your day with non-stop activities in preparation to reach your go...

Procrastination Distraction Condition
Do you ever feel like you are procrastinating? What if I were to tell you that you are not, and there is an easy fix. It’s hard to tell how many dreams have are being crushed from the inability to get things done. Procrastination is nothing more than a distraction from current life conditions. Decide that your current circumstances are no longer acceptable, you stop procrastinating. What if there was something deeper? What if you were filling your day with non-stop activities in preparation to reach your go...


Success Habits
Whatever you get in life is a result of your daily habits. What is a habit? According to the dictionary, it is a settled or regular tendency or practice.  It is also something that is especially one that is hard to give up. Good habit or bad - they are hard to give up. If that’s the case, you may as well choose good habits. In a survey of 233 self-made millionaires, here’s what they did that lower-income earners didn’t - Get up early, read, a LOT, spend 15 - 30 minutes each day on focused thinking. Good hab...

Success Habits
Whatever you get in life is a result of your daily habits. What is a habit? According to the dictionary, it is a settled or regular tendency or practice.  It is also something that is especially one that is hard to give up. Good habit or bad - they are hard to give up. If that’s the case, you may as well choose good habits. In a survey of 233 self-made millionaires, here’s what they did that lower-income earners didn’t - Get up early, read, a LOT, spend 15 - 30 minutes each day on focused thinking. Good hab...

You Must Change Before Anything Else Changes
People have always sought change for themselves, their life, or the world. If you want to change, there is a constant truth; you must change before anything else changes. Many smart folks agree - Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” Leo Tolstoy, “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” What about Albert Einstein?  “The world, as we have created, is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” Do you ...


Leadership is More Than Looking The Part
I was speaking with a young man at the gym. He made a comment that made me twist my head sideways like one of my curious Alpacas.  He said, “I’m working so hard to be a good leader. Here I am at the gym, and I’m spending all my time on the phone trying to get my team to be more productive.” I asked, “What is your team doing?” “Oh, some are working in the office and others with clients, but I know they can do more.” I don’t know about you, but that last thing that motivates me is to have somebody else, who i...

You Are The Engine That Drives Your Dreams
You’ve heard if you want success you must go after your goals with consistency and dedication. You must want it for yourself. More than anybody wants if for you. YOU are the engine that drives your dreams. Others will help, but in the end, your actions are the only thing that will lead to the reward. I remember when my kids got older. I had a talent for manifesting what I wanted in life, and my Son asked, “Dad, how do you always seem to create what you want?” I said, “YOU must make up your mind that you wan...

Do What Makes Your Heart Sing
Have you ever found yourself working for hours while time flies?  You are doing what makes your heart sing! Some folks say, "Do what you love, and you'll never work another day in your life."  That's not true.  You will work harder than ever - and will love every minute of it. Your rewards will come like never before. It's easy to dream of a less complicated life when all you have ever done is live a complicated life.  That's not the issue.  When you realize that there are never enough hours in the day - an...


What CAN You Do - Right Now?
What CAN You Do - Right Now? I have a favorite question;" What Can I Do?" I ask it when I'm unsure about the next action. It always delivers.  Getting what you want in life sometimes includes random and vague goal setting - something that is not likely to help you make progress. What you need is to be targeted and specific.  But what do you when targeted and specific isn't coming to mind? Ask yourself - " What Can I Do?" Sometimes the answer is not what you want to hear. Then again, when you are stopped in ...

What CAN You Do - Right Now?
What CAN You Do - Right Now? I have a favorite question;" What Can I Do?" I ask it when I'm unsure about the next action. It always delivers.  Getting what you want in life sometimes includes random and vague goal setting - something that is not likely to help you make progress. What you need is to be targeted and specific.  But what do you when targeted and specific isn't coming to mind? Ask yourself - " What Can I Do?" Sometimes the answer is not what you want to hear. Then again, when you are stopped in ...

Removing Obstacles That Stand in Your Way
Removing Obstacles That Stand in Your Way Have you ever wondered how much easier things would be if you didn’t have to think so much? What if the future or your past didn’t matter? Imagine if you didn’t worry about the possessions, success, or drama of others? What would happen if you believed that YOU are in control?  Now you are starting to think like a Stoic Philosopher. Stoicism is about paring down and simplifying. They eliminate unproductive traits that define the majority of the population. One of th...


How Happy People See The World
How Happy People See The World   Did you know that happy people see the world differently?   They don't wear rose-colored glasses. They have a better way:   1) Happy people realize that being alive includes problems.      2) Happy people accept that challenges are a privilege.     3) Happy people get frustrated but don't give up. Problems mean everything is normal.   4) Happy people take responsibility for solving problems.    5) Happy people deal with everything life can throw at them, get a great nights s...

Life. Work. Balance.
Life. Work. Balance. A long time ago, you found yourself graduating high school and thrust into real-life. I’m sure you gave lots of thought to your future. Then again, you were young. Twenty years later, things can look very different. Over the years, I’ve learned something about working for a living: 1) Chasing money, advancement, and being significant will keep you busy. It will also blind you from other areas of life you would enjoy. 2) Pursuing passion and mission without considering real-life is a rec...

Life. Work. Balance.
Life. Work. Balance. A long time ago, you found yourself graduating high school and thrust into real-life. I’m sure you gave lots of thought to your future. Then again, you were young. Twenty years later, things can look very different. Over the years, I’ve learned something about working for a living: 1) Chasing money, advancement, and being significant will keep you busy. It will also blind you from other areas of life you would enjoy. 2) Pursuing passion and mission without considering real-life is a rec...


Success In The Gig Economy
Living in today’s GIG economy is changing lives for millions.  And, it's only going to get bigger - because it’s all about taking care of people.   Use this equation to open more doors in this new way of life: Problem + Cost = Opportunity.   Everybody has a problem that needs solving. Is it money? Time?Freedom?   Here’s how you convert problems into your success:   1) Recognize the problem that a customer, employee, friend, or family member is having.   2) Identify how much that problem is costing them. It ...

How to Make the Law of Attraction Work for You
Get the Coaching you need to take your life to the next level at https://motivationtomove.com. I've always believed the Law of Attraction should be called Law of What You Think About Most.   Like attracts like. What you think about, you get.    If you think, "I won't get it because I never do" - you are correct.   Dreaming of a new life while focusing on your current problems is a sure way to keep spinning your wheels.   The trick is to focus your attention and actions on what you want to attract. That will...

Traits of the Successful
Traits of the Successful   Success leaves clues. Here are a few:   The person who has the biggest WHY wins.   The person who shows up consistently wins.   The most persistent person wins.   The person who never assumes wins.   The person who is the best at what they do wins.   The person who plans and documents their journey wins.   The person who never gives up total control wins.   The person who accepts responsibility wins.   The person who accepts advice yet makes up their own mind wins.   The person wh...


Leadership Skills You Forgot
If you want to figure what you want, learn how to get it, and have support every step of the way - Daily Boost Coaching is for you. It’s time to stop waiting around. Time is passing faster than you think. Go to DailyBoostCoaching.com and get started for just ONE DOLLAR. Leadership Skills You Forgot   There is nothing new in life. If you want to be a great leader, learn from those who know how to lead.  Do what they do.   "Good leaders take a little more than their share of the blame, a little less than the...

Don't Get Stuck In Learning Mode
Don't Get Stuck In Learning Mode   Have you ever felt as if something was holding you back? You might be spending too much time learning.   The challenge begins when your mind gets confused. Since it can't tell the difference between perception and reality, learning feels like doing. You might be getting smarter, but you are not moving forward.   Here are some simple truths:   1) Learning a new skill is fun and required for a better life.   2) Learning alone will not produce results.   3) You don't have to ...

4 Types of Clarity
4 Types of Clarity   Understanding what you want in life is the foundation of all success.  There are 4 types of Clarity:   1) Clarity of Purpose: Knowing what drives your heart and soul is the fuel the will propel you to your dreams.   2) Clarity of Task: What tasks fulfill your purpose? Knowing will reduce stress and create daily satisfaction.   3) Clarity of Process: Ritualistic and consistent dedication to your proven process lead to happiness.  Learn what works. Do more of it.   4) Clarity of Outcome: ...


10 Daily Success Habits
If you want to figure what you want, learn how to get it, and have support every step of the way - Daily Boost Coaching is for you. It’s time to stop waiting around. Time is passing faster than you think. Go to DailyBoostCoaching.com and get started for just ONE DOLLAR.   10 Daily Success Habits   Daily success is a habit. When you figure out what works, and do it every day, the success you deserve is around the corner.   1) Daily Top 3: We all have tons to do. Make sure at least 3 of those items are Goal a...

Simplify With Adequate Information
The success you deserve is just around the corner. Go to DailyBoostCoaching.com right now.   Simplify With Adequate Information   Is your head always spinning with information overload?   It’s easy to do in today’s busy world. It can also be paralyzing and dream stopping.   Instead of soaking in every piece of information and confusing yourself, the secret is -   1) Know your outcome. If you know where you are heading, it’s easier to see which road to travel.   2) Commit to tossing out 80% of the noise and ...

How To Achieve Greatness
Get the Coaching and Motivation you need to get what you want at https://motivationtomove.com Do you dream of greatness?   Instead of rushing through life, why not change your mindset and actions? It's time that you can become the person you were meant to be?   Here are a couple of ideas:   1) Use your imagination to form images, thoughts, and sensations in your mind. You don’t need anybody’s help. Trust yourself.   2) Enthusiasm is living life with excitement and PASSION. Only involve yourself in activitie...


Jump Into Your Dreams
Get the Coaching and MOtivation you need to get what you want at MotivationToMove.com.   Jump Into Your Dreams   Steve Harvey is a funny and wise man.   He says, "You must jump.   If you want to be successful, you must jump into your dreams, take a leap of faith, and go for it."   Many times we stand on the cliff of life and watch others enjoying the success you deserve.   They jumped, their parachute opened, and life is good.   You must jump.   When you finally decide to jump, your parachute will not open ...

No Limitations. Good Consequences.
No Limitations. Good Consequences.   What if everything you did came with no limitations and good consequences?     Limitations are useful. Staying within speed limits keeps you from getting tickets. That’s good. Limiting yourself to a job that doesn’t serve you? That’s bad.    Is it fear of change that creates limitations?   Is it the fear of adverse consequences?   Imagine what you could do if you never limit yourself, and all the consequences were good?   Exciting - right?   I think you should roll throu...

Under Complicating Life
Get the Coaching and Motivation you need to get what you want at MotivationToMove.com. Under Complicating Life   Do you ever wish you had a less complicated life?     Unless you flying an airplane or performing brain surgery, right now, you are likely overcomplicating.     These steps will help:   1) Practice the rule of “Good Enough." Perfectionism is over-rated.   2) Say NO. Repeat it. Say NO a lot.    3) Focus on your daily life experience. Prioritize creating a great day - every day. Leonardo da Vinci s...


7 Steps to Life-Long Success
Get the Coaching and Motivation you need to get what you what at MotivationToMove.com. 7 Steps to Life-Long Success   I'm a fan of Stoic Philosophy. While it may be over 2,000 years old, its practicality is still useful.   I wonder if these steps will help you get more of what you want?   1. If you're going to learn and succeed, be humble. There is always someone smarter, more successful, and wiser.    2. Find the right scene. Choose your friends and situations. If you want to rise in life, you can’t allow ...

Starting Over For The Last Time
Get the Coaching and Motivation you need to get what you want at MotivationToMove.com.   Starting Over For The Last Time   What actions would you take if forced to start over again?   Here’s what I would do:   1) Get absolute clarity and focus. What ONE thing you want your life and lifestyle to be?   2) Confirm your WHY. Success takes time. Long-lasting success isn’t guaranteed. Owning a strong WHY will allow you the flexibility to persevere forever.   3) Clear the clutter. You can’t move forward with the w...

What's Blocking Your Success And How To Fix It
Get the Coaching you want Monday through Friday with Daily Boost Premium.  Get started today at MotivationToMove.com.   What's Blocking Your Success And How To Fix It.   If you find yourself spinning your wheels, remember this -   You must know where you are before you can go where to want to be.   It's time to take an inventory of your life as it exists today.   A few hours and examining your finances, jobs, relationships, responsibilities, and dreams can be eye-opening. It's also the only way to deal with...


How To Change Your Life in 30 Days or Less
Get the Coaching you need, results you want, and success you deserve with the Daily Boost 5 days a week - commercial free!  Start today at MotivationToMove.com.   How To Change Your Life in 30 Days or Less   Only a crazy person thinks you can change everything about your life in 30 days - right?   Call me crazy, but everything I've ever done had its roots in a 30-day sprint.   Here's how you do it:   1) Set what Napoleon Hill calls a Major Definite Purpose, otherwise known as a Big Ass Goal.   2) Stop negat...

How to Master Your Mornings
Today's Daily Boost is brought to you buy HelloFresh.  For $80 off your first month of HelloFresh, go to HelloFresh.com/BOOST80 and enter BOOST80.   How to Master Your Mornings   Ask a successful person about the most crucial time of their day, and they’ll say, “Mornings."   How you use your mornings sets the pace for your entire day.  It’s best to keep things simple:   1) Lose your excuse that mornings are out of control madness. That’s how most people think. Decide that you CAN take control and you will. ...

Stepping Into Your Success Spotlight
Get all of your Coaching commercial-free! Go to PREMIUM at MotivationToMove.com. Stepping Into Your Success Spotlight I have a question for you - Are you a Rock Star or a member of the band? Either is okay, but it sure helps to know which Role you play while you move toward your Goals. I remember talking with my Son after graduation. He had set his sights on becoming a Rock Star. Now, as a Dad who has BIG dreams and hard-won experience chasing them, I knew I had to give him perspective. So I asked - Are you...


Change How You  Communicate.  Get Better Results.
Thanks to Airbnb for sponsoring The Daily Boost.  Are you looking for some side cash or a steady income?  You should think about hosting on Airbnb.com. Go to airbnb.com/boost to find out more, get started, and learn how you can get a $100 Amazon gift card from airbnb.com just for our listeners. Terms and conditions apply. Unless you live in a cave, effective communication is something you need to master to get what you want in life.   Have you ever been in a conversation and feel you are not being heard?   ...

Productivity Efficiency
Thanks to Airbnb for sponsoring The Daily Boost.  Are you looking for some side cash or a steady income?  You should think about hosting on Airbnb.com. Go to airbnb.com/boost to find out more, get started, and learn how you can get a $100 Amazon gift card from airbnb.com just for our listeners. Terms and conditions apply. Productivity Efficiency I think it’s time we stop seeking more productivity.  It’s too much work!  I prefer being more efficient and effective.  Here are a couple of ideas that will help: ...


Surround Yourself With Successful People
Thanks to Airbnb for sponsoring this episode of The Daily Boost. Go to airbnb.com/boost and start hosting you’ll receive a $100 Amazon Gift Card if you generate $500 in booking value by July 31. Terms and conditions apply.   Have you ever wondered how the most successful people in the world get that way? Could it be their timing is right?  Do they “know” somebody? Luck? That’s it. They get lucky! Maybe, but I think there is more to it. Every person I’ve ever know who achieved remarkable success did three th...

Make A Decision or Drive Yourself Crazy
No matter what you desire in your life, everything starts as a thought in your mind.  It will demand your attention. You have three options: 1) Deny it and keep moving. 2) Accept it and put it into action. 3) Delay it and drive yourself crazy. Deny it.  Deal with it.  Delay it.  The quality of your life will be a result of your choice....


Never-Ending Perseverance Doesn’t Need Plan B
Thanks to Airbnb for sponsoring this episode of The Daily Boost. Go to airbnb.com/boost and start hosting you’ll receive a $100 Amazon Gift Card if you generate $500 in booking value by July 31. Terms and conditions apply.   Have you ever wondered how the most successful people in the world get that way? Could it be their timing is right?  Do they “know” somebody? Luck? That’s it. They get lucky! Maybe, but I think there is more to it. Every person I’ve ever know who achieved remarkable success did three th...

A filter of Absolute Focus
My wife and I were having dinner this weekend.  She finally asked, “Are you going to tell me about what you’re doing for Operation Reinvention?  I want to help.” I said, “I won’t need your help. I need your support.” She had a puzzled look.  I don’t blame her.  But, I am locked in on my Goal - and that need two things: 1) The ability to filter out what doesn’t matter and prioritize what does. 2) Accept 100% responsibility for reaching your Goal. As they say, “If it’s to be, it’s up to me.”  Anything less wi...

Three Things You Need to Get What You Want
I just got off the phone with a client.  We were chatting about getting moving.  She said, “That’s the hardest part!  I need help getting off my butt.” She’s not alone. Getting what you want comes down to pure physics: 1) An object at rest stays at rest, and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force. 2) Inertia must overcome your resting state or your current path.  That will require a - 3) Catalyst is what gets you moving - other...


Keeps Things Simple.  Get Stuff Done.
I’m a fan of David Allen’s Getting Things Done.  His book spawned an entire industry.  It also causes a lot of stress. A few years ago David was speaking at a conference and folks asked how he managed to get things done: 1) Nothing gets done until I process everything.  No cheating.  2) When I have time, I process everything into a single “Trusted” place.  Some folks use a journal.  Others use software.  3) I review my potential work weekly and decide if I still need to do it. Remember - Nothing added to yo...

Get Out of Your Rut At Your Peril
I live by a mantra that says - “Almost everything in day-to-day life should be routine.  Consistent.  Predictable.  Between the lines. Boring.  But, occasionally, it’s good to get out of the box, a little on edge, a bit scared, and a lot excited.” The truth is, you need both.  There is also another truth. Most things that make you happy and successful are pretty mundane — taking care of your home, paying bills on time, spending time with family.  Consistent routines focused on what’s important are how you a...

Supercharge Your Self-Esteem
Do you have goals and dreams?  If so, Confidence and Self Esteem will play a significant role. Confidence is feeling good about your worth or abilities; self-respect. Self Esteem is a feeling of self-assurance.  An appreciation for your abilities or qualities. You need both, and you get them through experience. Yes, it’s possible to fake it until you make it.  It’s better to jump in head first. Everything you do today is an opportunity to become a more self-confidence person.  A person who appreciates your ...


Improving Your Financial Situation Makes Dreams Come True
When it comes to improving their lives, most people say money is their top concern? Tony Robbins said, “Making money won’t solve all of your problems - but at least you will arrive at your problems in style.” The truth is, making more money, no matter how little, will solve most of your problems.  It is also the magic juice that will fuel your dreams.  If you want enough money to create the life of your dreams: 1) KNOW what kind of life you desire.  Be realistic about how much you need. 2) Making money is a...

Finding Your True Purpose
There is a question floating deep within your mind that is going to demand your attention very soon.  Is this all there is?  I’m I destined for something bigger than myself? Discovering YOU is not a search.  It’s an acceptance. You will discover WHO you are by accepting your past and present actions. It’s accepting WHAT is not a thing; it's a feeling. If you want to change it.  Change it. WHEN will you become your true self?  When your WHEN becomes today....

Hierarchy of Needs
Hierarchy of Needs Brought you by Blinkist. Go to Blinkist.com/boost to start your free 7 day trial.   Success in life happens on top of a solid foundation of basic needs.   In 1954, Abraham Maslow released Motivation and Personality. He expanded on his Hierarchy of Needs theory.   Maslow suggested that to reach your full potential:   1) You must provide for your physiological needs.  Food, clothing, shelter, money, and more.    2) You must feel safe.   Personally, emotionally, financially, health and well-...


How to Focus on Happiness
Bought to you by HelloFresh.   Get $80 off your first month by going to HelloFresh.com/BOOST80 and enter BOOST80.   Have you ever found yourself feeling stressed by the path you are traveling in your life?   Should go this way?   Should go that way?   Who wouldn’t feel stressed when you’re always looking at an uncertain future?    It gets worse when you start comparing yourself to the success of others.  We’ve all heard folks say, “If they can do it - YOU can do it!”    Sure you can.  But is that what you w...

Tomorrow’s Happiness Starts Today
Do you ever wake up in the morning and jump straight into your To-Do list and forget about what you want?   With so much on our plates, it can be easy to lose track of the big picture and lose track of where you were heading.   That’s why we always do our Homework on Monday.  It’s a powerful way to ‘Overlay’ your what is essential in your life while you get the day-to-day stuff done.   Here’s how I do it:   1) Check in with the ‘Roles’ and ‘Goals’ you have in your life.   Do you like what you have or need t...

Fast Path to Success
Success is a funny word.  Generic yet descriptive, success is something different for everyone.  Whatever success means to you, there is one fast-path to get it:   1) Decide what you want.  You’ll need the help of others too so start thinking about building your idea into a form that others will understand.   2) Build your dream. Stop trying to make it perfect. When you are 70% ready to move forward, it’s time to get busy.   3) Sell it. Are you seeking a new job, finding a new relationship, or selling a pro...


Instant Better Communication
What if three words could allow you to communicate better and reach your goals faster?   Here’s how to stay on track no matter who wants to pull you off course:   1) When asked by others to help them reach their goals it’s time to agree and defer.  As an example, say, “Yes, I can help, AND let’s talk about it later when I finish what I’m doing.  Watch how folks leave you alone.   2) Inserting the word ‘Yet’ into any conversation will allow you to stay positive and keep your momentum. For instance, saying “N...

Connecting With The Right People
I'm sure you've heard the saying, "It's not WHAT you know, it's WHO you."   Collecting connections by networking and meeting people is something everybody does.  Most are hoping that someday, maybe, hopefully, those connections will lead to success.   Maybe.  Maybe not.   Most connections only lead to a desk full of business cards from people you don’t remember.  If you want a more immediate return on any contact, you need to ask one question -   “Will having a relationship with this person move me forward ...

Simple Time Management
Are you having difficulty managing your time?   With millions of years of civilization, you have to wonder why we still struggling with time.   It’s time to keep it simple:   1) Every day has 24 hours.  That’s enough time to do anything.   2) You will always have time for what is important to you.  Focus, my friend.   3) Scheduling space in your day for your tasks is your number one priority.   4) Completing your scheduled tasks is your second priority.  Keeping going until you finish your mission.   5) Avo...


Start The Week With a NO
Do you ever wish you had a less complicated life?   If you are not flying an airplane or performing brain surgery  - you are likely overcomplicating life.   These rules will help you start the new week under YOUR control:   #1:  Practice the law of “Good Enough."  Perfectionism is over-rated.  It will waste years of productive time that you could use to enjoy life.   Rule #2:  Say “No” and repeat it.  Make that little two-letter word your default answer for everything.  Say “Yes” to what you love.   Rule #3...

Stop Being Comfortably Miserable
Are you living a life of comfortable misery?   It's easy to settle into day-to-day that is not exactly what you want.  It’s not bad.  It’s not good.   Are you making barely enough income to be comfortable but still struggle?   Is your job okay but not inspiring?   Are your relationships fine but not fueling your dreams?   Most folks are living comfortably miserable.   Don’t let that be you.   Change your path now. Decide to accept nothing less than exactly what you want.  Stand up, take a step, and repeat. ...

What’s Your Big, Awesome, Motivating, Mission?
Do you still dream of what you will be when you grow up?    Do visions still keep popping into your head?    Is there a mission that seems to be calling you?   What’s your BAM?    What’s your BIG - AWESOME - MOTIVATION - MISSION?   What gives you pleasant dreams and a feeling of happiness?   What scares, yet excites you?   What makes you smile and say, “If I could only get myself to…”   Stand up?  Take a step?  Repeat?   There’s no need to wait.  You can start right now.  Really!  Right now....


Become The Leader Everyone Knows
Become The Leader Everyone Knows   Are you a Rock Star leader or a member of the band?   Either is okay, but it sure helps to know which role you play while you move toward your goals.   Let's define the difference.   In the eyes of the world, a Rock Star is the leader of the band.  Everyone knows their name.  They have the spotlight, and the audience seeks them out.  They also accept the responsibility that goes with the job.   The band may make the entire engine run and get mad respect.  But very few peop...

More Productive One Week at a Time
What if you could maintain never-ending momentum while you worked toward your goals?  No matter how long it took?   The ‘MTM Rolling 7’ is the solution you need to get the life you’ve always said you wanted.    It works like this:   1) Set your short-term and long-term goals.    2) Decide what past achievements you enjoy and that you want to defend.  Many current successes must you should maintain while you pursue your new adventures.   3) Decide what future goals you are ready to ‘activate' and achieve.   ...

The Paradox of Choice.  Are There Too Many?
Do you have too many choices in your life?  Is it confusing and making you feel distressed?   In 2005, Barry Schwartz wrote Paradox of Choice and challenged traditional thinking.  He said the way to maximum freedom in your life was to minimize choice.    Too many choices are not a good thing and can create paralysis.  Not to mention, no matter what you choose, you'll always wonder if you could have done better.   Distractions are your enemy and focus is your friend:  Here's how to free up your life:   1) Li...


Mapping Your Success
Wouldn’t it be great if you had a plan to help you get what you want?    What you need is M.A.P.S. - a system that gets thinking out of the way and focuses on actions in four areas:   Motivation - Everything begins with motivation and knowing ‘WHY’ you set your goals.  Stay motivated.   Accountability: Being accountable and accepting responsibility for your results will empower your success.  Saying, ‘If it’s to be, it’s up to me’ is a great way to get started.   Planning: Plan your work, work you plan.  It...

Why You Need Interdependent Relationships
The quality of your life is a direct result of your relationships.  Tony Robbins said that.   Whether it’s a personal, professional, or business relationship.  There are three ways to play the relationship game.  There is only one way to win.   1) All relationships begin with two independent individuals.  If you remain independent, you will never connect.   2) Some relationships become co-dependent.  Developing this kind of relationship means losing individuality.  Isn't that what attracted you in the first...

Happy No Matter What
Would you like to be happy every day of the week?  Maybe it’s time to start thinking like a happy person? There’s no magic to being happier. Rose colored glasses are not required. Just start looking at your day-to-day life the way a happy person does. Give this a try: 1) Accept that merely being alive means you will run into occasional challenges. 2) Realize that dealing with challenges is a privilege that comes with being alive. 3) Welcome frustration.  That means that you are not satisfied and are beginni...


Characteristics of Success
Do you wish you that you could find a mentor to help you along the way?   Every mentor I’ve ever had has made a point of validating that I possessed three characteristics for success.   Would you pass their test?   1) Do you have a burning desire to achieve your goal?   2) Are you a coachable person and prepared to accept the wisdom and guidance of others?   3) Do you have the willingness to undertake all actions to achieve your success?   Wouldn’t you want this in someone that was asking for your help?   W...

It’s All About Your Experience
Happy New Year!   As we begin a new year, I have a question for you.   What experiences will you have this year?   Life is all about the experience. That requires planning, awareness, and setting expectations.   As you go about setting and achieving your goals, be sure to pay attention to your focus. While you take action, shift your focus to the experience you desire. Life will be a lot more fun.   Isn't that what goal setting is all about?   Don't skip over the fun by jumping to the destination. Savor the...

Face Your Passion: Building Your Bridge
Changing something about your life is pretty straightforward. Figure out what you want and change it.   Are you done laughing?   Most folks fall on the way to their dreams because they don't move, move at the wrong time, or run too fast. That's why, once you know what you want, it's time to build your bridge.   Here’s how:   1) Fortify your current foundation. Save money, pay bills, do whatever it takes to create a firm and peaceful base to build.   2) Begin constructing the foundation for your new life. Go...


Face Your Passion: Using Transitional Identities
Have you allowed yourself to become the person you are on the inside?   We all make decisions that change our life trajectory without much thought. That can lead feeling of being lost on you your life path.   Maybe it's time to create a new way of seeing yourself?   Using a Transitional Identity is a great way to feel confident when you can’t believe in your future.   The trick is to focus on the smaller steps on the way to your destination. That will allow you to move away from who you are, yet not jump to...

Face Your Passion: Living According to Values & Goals
A big frustration for most folks is feeling as if other people are getting in the way. =   That will stop the very instant you begin to living according to your Values as you word toward your Goals:   Here's the simple recipe for enjoying every minute of the day:   1) Know, understand, and practice living your Values at all times. While it's not always easy, you will feel happier and in control.   2) Be sure only to set Goals that allow you to practice your Values along the way. Doing otherwise is not being...

Face Your Passion: Average Perfect Day
How would you feel if every day, on average, was as you wanted?   It's time to make your dreams come true and create your “Average Perfect Day.”   Here's how it works:   1) Find a quiet spot and write a detailed description of your perfect day. Let your fantasies flow onto paper until you've mapped out morning until night.   2) Focus on your daily experiences, not material goods. In other words, if you want a sports car, focus on how you would feel in the driver seat.   3) Fight the urge to judge. The goal ...


No Brainer Success
With a new year upon us, it’s time crank up those 2019 goals - simple way.   One of the easiest methods of achieving success is to stick to tried and true. That doesn’t mean you can’t move toward something more meaningful. It means that you forgo new knowledge and skill and leverage what you already understand.   No brainer success assumes:   1) You already have sufficient experience and wisdom. You will learn any new skill if, and only if needed.   2) You will choose the path of least resistance. The goal ...

What Can You Do in a Year?
I have a favorite question; ”What Can I Do?"   I ask it anytime I am unsure about my next action.  It always delivers an answer.  But, this time of year, I add some awesome sauce; ”What can I do this year?"   It's time to put an end to random and vague goal setting. It's all about capacity, choices, and prioritizing your actions.  Since you can't do it all, at least at the same time, it's time to force yourself to get real about what is possible.   So, what can YOU do this coming year?   You might not reach...

Transforming When Nobody is Looking
You are living in a magical time of the year and may not even know it.   Have you noticed how busy and self-distracted everybody is?    Most folks are busy running into next years marathon and are not paying attention to their lives - let alone yours.    That presents an opportunity.   Beginning your journey of personal change is always easier on the path of least resistance.    Why not make up your mind and change direction when there is nobody around to judge you?   If they are not looking, will you becom...


What’s Your One Thing?
In the movie “City Slickers,” Mitch was on a mission to find purpose - as if there was a single solution for everybody.    That’s when he met a cowboy with simple yet straightforward advice -   Curly: Do you know what the secret of life is? [holds up one finger] This.   Mitch: Your finger?   Curly: One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that, and the rest don’t mean &*#@.   Mitch: But, what is the “one thing?”   Curly: That’s what you have to find out.   Most folks spend their lives searching outside thems...

The Christmas Experience
It’s Christmas Day, and the world has paused to celebrate the importance of this special day.      This year, I have enjoyed this season more than most.  I feel very connected - and it started with a shopping trip.   Most years I save shopping for Christmas Eve and always find myself rushing.  Often I end up searching for items given to me on a list.  I was never satisfied - so I changed the experience.   Over the past few months, I dropped the list and focused attention on my loved one's needs.  I opened m...

Receiving Last Years Gifts
It’s the time of year when gift giving is everywhere - but those are not the most important you have received.   Every day that passes you experience life.   The good.  The bad.  The ugly.  Those experiences add up to incredible life lessons that you carry forever.    That leads me to a question -   What experiences did you have last year that you consider a gift?   Challenging or pleasurable.  How you perceive has power to transform your future.   As you head into Christmas, take a moment and give thanks f...


Dealing With Bad Experiences
Do you ever get stuck on memories from the past?  Bad memories?  Unpleasant memories? Focusing on good is good for the soul.  Dwelling on bad is bad for everything. The other day my wife asked, “How can you completely disconnect from bad experiences? It’s as if you don’t see them.” Trust me.  I do.  A long time ago I made the distinction nobody can control the past.  I changed how I think: 1) If you dwell on the past, you bring those experiences into your current life.  They become real - again.  You also n...

Living According to Your Core Values
Would you genuinely like to live a content life?  May it’s time to make Values a constant companion? Values are your principles or standards of behavior; your judgment of what’s important in life. Love. Dependability. Family Focused. Loyalty. Commitment. Open-Minded. Consistency. Honesty. All Values you may hold. Your Values arrived through life experience. Now you can use your guide.  You have earned them.  They are your wisdom.  When you choose to make decisions based on your Values - you walk in integrit...

ONE Thing Propels Success
When you apply the world’s simplest success recipe everything else will care of itself.  Stand up.  Take a step.  REPEAT! But how do you propel yourself for maximum forward momentum? In The One Thing, Gary Keller writes; “Success is sequential, not simultaneous.”  When you fuel yourself with focus your life will begin to move forward. Gary also gives a great question you can ask yourself to define your focus. “What’s the ONE Thing you can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessar...


How To Be a Happy Person
Did you know that happy people see the world differently? They don't wear rose-colored glasses.  They have a better way: 1)  Happy people realize being alive includes challenges.     2) Happy people accept that problems are a privilege that comes with being alive. 3) Happy people get frustrated but don’t give up.  Challenges indicate everything is normal. 4) Happy people accept responsibility for solving problems. 5)  Happy people deal with everything life throws at them, get a great nights sleep, and do it...

Singular Focus For The Holidays
Here we are in the most distraction filled time of the year.  Have you wondered?  Is it possible to keep moving toward your goals when everything else is in the way? It is with Singular Focus. Singular is extraordinary, remarkable, and exceptional. Focus is a central point of attraction, attention, or activity. It’s time to be exceptionally focused on one activity that will move you forward.  You won’t have time for everything else. How do you get Singular Focus? 1) Reduce your things-to-do Universe. Chose ...

Want More? Do More.
Have you noticed?    As soon as you initiate action toward a goal - a million other distractions arrive in your life? Etch this into your mind: Activity creates activity. No matter what you choose to take on, your energy will attract the attention.  You will discover everything you need to succeed.  It will also draw everything is necessary to through you off track.  That’s okay.  You can harness this power to get what you want. Don't get stuck in neutral.  Shift gears and accelerate yourself into massive i...


Turning an Obstacle Upside Down
Have you ever wondered how much easier things would be if you didn’t have to think so much? What if the future or your past didn’t matter?  There was only now. Imagine if you didn’t worry about the possessions, success, or drama of others? What would happen if you believed that you are in control?  Now you are starting to think like a Stoic, a Stoic Philosopher. Stoicism is about pairing down. It is simplifying. They eliminate common and unproductive traits that define the majority of the population.  They ...

Ask For What You Want
We all want something. A better job, better relationships, more time off. So what’s stopping you from getting it? If you’re like most folks, you’re tap dancing and beating around the bush. It's simple. If you don't ask, you don't get. You can ask others. You can ask yourself. You can ask the Universe. Here's the simple formula you can use to get what you want: 1) Decide what you want and come right out and ask for it. 2) Tell who you are asking what the benefit is for them. 3) Tell them what they can do ne...

One Question Stops Procrastination
Procrastination is the intentional and systematic postponement of an important task you should be doing.  Is that what you are doing? Even if you are putting things off, it’s possible that you are not procrastinating.  Is it possible that you might be forcing yourself to do something that you don't want to do anyway? Yes, you must complete some tasks to get ahead.  However, if your list of un-done keeps getting longer, it's time to ask yourself a question - If you are procrastinating on tasks, are they real...


Connecting Conversations
Connecting Conversations Today you are going to have opportunities to communicate.  Written or spoken.  In an email, in person, on the phone.  Here’s how to create connecting conversation every time: 1) Meet folks where they are. Pay attention to how their day is going.  Step into their NOW. 2) Doing that is as simple as establishing something in common.  “Wow! Has this day been crazy for you too?” 3) Establish an undeniable truth.  “I promise it’s going to get crazier with the holidays coming.” 4) Next, mo...

Getting Others To Help You Succeed
Getting what you want in life begins as an idea that bubbles up from the inside.  It becomes reality others recognize your passion and offer help. Here’s how it works: 1) Forget the “What” and “How” of your dreams.  Those will take care of themselves. 2) Focus on “Why” you want change in your life. 3) Know and believe achieving your goal is your destiny. Why does this work? When you believe in yourself, others will believe in you.  They feel your passion and have the desire to help you succeed. Doors open f...

Good ‘Nuff is Good ’Nuff
Good ‘Nuff is Good ’Nuff How much is good enough? I received an email from an MTMer who changed careers to become a Surgical Assistant at an age when most folks are thinking about retirement. Mike, shared a useful saying he's heard many times in the operating room. ”The evil of good-enough is better." Once you've accomplished your goal, stop messing around and move on.  The more you poke around, the better chance you'll have of doing more harm than good. A simple concept.  I like simple.  Simple works....


What If Next Week Never Comes
It's a new week. 1) Do your homework. 2) Resolve to take massive imperfect action and make progress. 3) Celebrate your results. The coming week will never happen again. Make the best of it. Work hard. Defend what you've built. Plan for a party next weekend!...

Strangest Weekend Ever
It’s been a strange weekend. I get it.  I watch television too. Left.  Right.  Middle.  Angry.  Sad.  Numb. Many folks freaking out.  I want to make lemonade out of lemons.  We’re you engrossed in every minute or did you ignore everything?  Personally - My weekend was normal. I spent Saturday morning at a Family Days parade and ate dinner at Texas Roadhouse in Port Orange.  I said hello to my friends at Tractor Supply, Walmart and Home Depot.  My neighbor was bush hogging his pasture, and we had great “acro...

Running Your Life Like a Business
Not a day goes by without someone asking how to get what they want. I almost always say, “It’s all about return on investment.” After all, it would be a shame to work hard toward your goals and end up with less than you started - right? That’s why you should run your life like a business: 1) Decide what you want and get moving. You should be very specific. 2) Be flexible in your approach. The road is curvy. 3) Set benchmarks and measure your progress. Always know where you are. 4) If you don't achieve your ...


Permission To Be Yourself
It's amazing how many people say they want to be their true selves yet are waiting for permission to begin. Here’s the truth: 1)  You are already yourself.  If you want something different - do it. 2)  Nobody is going to give you permission.  They are too busy waiting for it themselves. 3)  Everything changes the minute you take your first step. I want to save you lots of time and frustration.  YES.  You have permission to be yourself.  Right now.  Let me know if you need me to write you a note....

How Do I Feel Strategy Sessions
How much better would your day be if you always knew what surprises were lurking around the corner? Why we can’t predict everything, we can prepare for most things using a “How Do I Feel Strategy Session.” 1)  Once a month, take a few minutes and review every possible interaction.  Jobs.  Trips.  Family events.  Everything. 2)  Explore each from every angle.   Imagine what may happen and craft a plan for handling it in your favor. 3)  Go about your day and stick to your plan.  You’re in control now. Pre-pla...

Continuity of Change
Creating a difference in your life requires a few simple actions.   It’s all about getting what you want and keeping what you love. 1) Decide:  Everything begins with a decision to transform. 2)  Define: Aimless wondering toward a dream is no fun.  Defining your path will get you there quickly. 3)  Deploy:  Putting your plan into action is the only way to make progress along your route. 4) Defend:  Your goal should be to make your life better.  When you find what you love - defend it, so you never lose it. ...


Stop Learning.  Start Doing.
Is something is holding you back?  Are you spending too much time learning? The challenge begins when your mind gets confused.  Your mind can’t tell the difference between perception and reality.  Learning feels like doing.  You might be getting smarter, but you're not moving forward. Here are some simple truths: 1) Learning new skills is fun and is required for a better life. 2) Learning alone will not produce the results you desire. 3) You don’t have to learn everything.   You already know enough to get s...

How To Be Happy Today
Did you know that happy people see the world differently? They don't wear rose-colored glasses.  They have a better way: 1)  Happy people realize that being alive includes problems.     2)  Happy people accept that problems are a privilege.  3) Happy people get frustrated but don’t give up.  Problems mean everything is normal. 4) Happy people accept responsibility for solving problems. 5)  Happy people deal with everything life can throw at them, get a great nights sleep, and do it all over again. Finally, ...

Stand up.  Take a step.  REPEAT!
Today the day that you apply the world’s simplest success recipe - and everything else will take care of itself.  Stand up.  Take a step.  REPEAT! But how do you propel yourself into maximum forward momentum? In The One Thing, Gary Keller writes; “Success is sequential, not simultaneous.”  When you fuel yourself with focus your life will begin to move forward. Gary also suggests a great question to help define your focus. “What’s the ONE Thing you can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier ...


Saying What’s Needed
In Tim Ferris's books the 4-Hour Workweek, he spoke about  Uncomfortable Conversations. Uncomfortable Conversations are great for pointing out the elephant in the room.  The one that nobody wants to acknowledge.  They are about clearing the air, understanding, and knowing where others stand.  Here’s how to master this skill: 1) Be direct and to the point.  Say, "We need to chat.  You might feel uncomfortable at first, but everything will be okay." 2) Ask your question or make your statement.  Keep it real, ...

Arsonist or Fireman?
Are you the kind of person who is always running around putting out fires - fires you set?  I think it is time that we take away your matches and lighter fluid. Here are a few things to think about: 1) If your life is non-stop drama, stress, and craziness.  Is there is a good chance that YOU are the cause?  There is also a good chance that you won’t see it that way. 2) Living with your hair on fire will keep you so busy that you will spend years wondering why you can’t get what you want. 3)  When you STOP d...

Why is WHY So Difficult?
You must know your why! Knowing why allows you to persist and achieve goals.  Without a strong understanding of why it's important, it's not that important. So, why is WHY so difficult? Folks tend to want their why to be fancy and meaningful.  But what if it was because you wanted to be happy?  What if you wanted more money? What if you just felt like it?  As long as you have the belief, it will drive you wherever you want to go....


Best Things Often Arrive After Bad Things
I asked a client, "What do you think it takes to be a better person during life’s difficult moments?” She had a simple answer: 1) Lead with your internal values.  Stay the course. 2) Seek advice and resources from others with more wisdom. 3) Have faith and courage.  The storm always makes you stronger. Excellent and useful advice for any stage of life....

The Strangest Secret
Earl Nightingale produced “The Strangest Secret” to motivate his insurance company sales force.   It is now a motivational standard. The secret is simple: 1) You become what you think. 2) You must pay the prices. 3) You must control your thoughts. 4) Cut away all limitations of your mind. 5) Set a clearly defined goal.  6) Act promptly when your path is clear. 7) Save at least 10% of every dollar. What do you want more than anything else?  Commit today to do more than you must to get what you want....

Defending Your Agenda
A client asked, “Where do you pay attention to keep yourself on track?”  My agenda.  Period. Why? As long as you know what you want in life, it’s only a matter of moving forward a little bit every day - and that can be difficult.    Every person you meet along the way may distract you from your course. Worse, they may recruit you onto theirs.  If you allow that to happen, you will detour yourself from your dreams. Defend your agenda.  Always....


You Don’t Need to Start Over
There are lots of folks in the world who are seeking change in their life.  They usually say… “I want something entirely new!  I’m tired of how things have been!  I want to start over!” My advice?  Don’t do it! Change doesn’t mean getting a do-over.  It’s more of an iteration or course correction.  Starting at the beginning has two problems: 1) It has taken you too long to acquire the wisdom and momentum you already have. Giving it up will mean losing your most potent tool. 2) All your wisdom makes it impos...

Traits of Greatness
Are you having a difficult time breaking through to YOU? While you are sprinting through your to-do list, keep these growth-traits in mind: 1)  Use your imagination to form images, ideas, and sensations in your mind.  Do it without the help of anything or anybody.  Trust your vision. 2)  Enthusiasm means living life with excitement and PASSION.  Only involve yourself in activities that make you enthusiastic. 3) Persistence is the art of doggedly persisting until you get what you want.  Stay in the game long...

Defining What is Takes To Reach Your Goals
Success in business and life often comes down to simple focus and common sense. I was watching Restaurant Impossible when Robert asked, "When did you last get paid?  Why do you have a business?” The answer? No matter what you do, you're only doing it for money. Don't believe me? What would you do if you didn't have to work?  I guarantee it would be different. Here are three kick-starting questions: 1) What exactly do you want from your business or your Job?  What should it provide you?  When you know, you c...


Better Communication Instantly
Have you ever wished that you could connect with someone fast?  Whether personal or business, getting on the same page is a huge advantage. The secret is simple.  Establish common ground right from the beginning. It's easy to laugh at folks talking about the weather, but isn't that common ground?  How about chatting about a football game or the latest hot movie? It's called a "Point of Connection."  The more points you find, the better will connect. When you find familiar ground with another person, you are...

Taking Control of Your Life
When I was learning to fly airplanes being in control was essential.  That's why I hated how my instructor never failed to command me to “Go Around” when I had the perfect landing in view.  The same thing happens in day-to-day life.  You can bet that somebody is going to challenge your control today.  Here how Pilots handle it: 1)  Hit the gas, apply full power and build momentum as fast as you can.  Don’t let a bad situation remove the wind from your wings. 2)  Focus your attention on whatever will most qu...

Your Anticipation Engine
I love how kids live in the moment while also getting excited about the next fun thing coming.  Maybe it's time we all begin acting like kids again? Since you were young, special events made you so excited that sheer anticipation would drive you all day, and keep you up at night.  The trick is to harnessing the power of anticipation is to keep a steady stream of exciting moments in your future.  I call this the Anticipation Engine.  There two things to keep in mind: 1) Your energy is dependent on getting ex...


Time to Run Faster
Is your hair on fire for success?  There's a phrase that sums up what it takes to find whatever you're seeking.  The faster the speed of the leader, the faster the speed of the pack. It's a simple truth; success likes speed.  It's very sexy and especially attractive to others. Knowing your goals and taking massive imperfect action always speed up success.  Why? People get caught up in the belief their leaders cast.  When you crank up your energy and urgency, others will follow and support your mission. What...

Mindset for Success (Part Two)
How about a few more ways to transform your mindset? 1) Start using a "Good Enough" approach. Perfectionism is doing nothing to move you forward. 2) Use your ONE mind to do ONE thing. Multitasking is splitting your focus and energy. It's also delaying your success. 3) Let go of control. Some things are not up to you. Figure out what they are and move on. 4) Say NO to anything that does not directly support your Goals. Don't do something in hopes of getting what you want. Do what you KNOW will get you what y...

Mindset for Success (Part One)
"On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become." -- Anonymous Here are a few ideas to help you rise to your full potential: 1) Live a good lifestyle.  Eat good stuff and exercise.  Simple. 2) Think long-term.  Find your groove.  Stick with it. 3) Play BIG.  Small thinking is not why you were born. 4) Be responsible.  No more excuses.  They are not helping you be happy. 5) Learn to be more flexible.  Stop being hard headed.  Go with the flow to get what you want....


Myth of Productivity
I think it’s time we stop seeking more productivity.  It’s too much work!  I prefer being more efficient and effective.  Here are a couple of ideas that will help: 1) Say, “No” to meetings if possible.  If you must, keep them short and sweet. 2) Delay paying attention to incoming communication.  It’s nothing more than somebody else’s to-do list.  Do your stuff first. 3) Daily interruptions will never go away.  You may as well expect and plan for them. 4) Never schedule more than 50% of your day.  That will ...

Stay On Track With Your Goals
Have you ever noticed that airplanes fly crooked?  At first glance it seems like those shiny tubes in the sky are heading toward their destination.  But look closer.  While flying a straight path, the nose of the plane points at a slight angle into the wind.  It's called Wind Correction. It's the same thing that happens when you set a Goal and head toward your destination.  While you would prefer the straight path, you will likely run into winds that want to push you off course. Your spouse doesn't agree wi...

Mastering Deep Work
I need to pass on a message.  Your MIND misses you! I know you've been crazy busy.  Shopping, cleaning the garage, checking Facebook.  Not to mention catching up on 500-hours of must-watch television on your DVR.  That's all great and makes time pass.  However... If you like to separate yourself from the masses and make your dreams come true, it's time to embrace the incredible power of Deep Work. Deep Work is eliminating all distractions and focusing on one purpose for a period.  Deep Work allows your MIND...


Making Time For What's Important
As a child, I remember waking up and heading out the door for a day.  It was an endless adventure that usually concluded with a game of Hide-And-Seek.   Those days seemed to last forever. These days, most adults are still running until the sun goes down. But, there's so much to do that you rarely have time to ponder the bigger picture. Remember- You will always find time for your most important tasks. You will eat, sleep, pay bills, feed the dog, and take care of your children. When will you find time for y...

Slowing Down Speeds Success
Are you moving too fast? I know what you're thinking. Isn't that how I'm supposed to get more done and reach my goals?  It depends. The "get motivated crowd" always wants to go faster. You get fired up, confident your plan is going to work, and start running - until you crash and burn again. We've all been there, done that. You do know that those actions are not actions at all, right?  You're spending your days on activity that makes you feel like you are gaining progress. You are buzzing like a bee and won...

Value Driven Life
As you stroll through life, you will find opportunities that will present you with a choice - a VALUE choice.  Your response speaks volumes about your character. There is no right or wrong.  There is only your inner voice guiding you in the direction of your destiny.  One selection moves you away.  Another moves you closer to the person you want to be. Values are your GPS to navigate life.  Rules you choose to follow.  Honesty, integrity, family-focused life, work-life balance are all examples of positive V...


Eliminating Procrastination The Easy Way
Are you a member of the Procrastination Club?  Procrastination is the intentional and habitual postponement of an essential task.  Is that what you are doing? It may be similar to that. Even if you are putting things off, it is possible that you are not procrastinating at all.  In fact, you may be forcing yourself to do something that you don't need or want to do anyway.  Yes, you must complete some tasks to get ahead in life.  That's called being a responsible person. If your list of un-done keeps getting ...

Reducing Fear and Anxiety
We're living in one of the most exciting and prosperous times in the history of humanity.  It makes you wonder why so many folks suffer from anxiety. Here's one way to make that go away. Changing your environment will change everything.  It's the power of place. If you have ever said, "I need some air," you already understand the power of place. Are you trapped in your current state of mind and are unable to see the forest through the trees? Are you fearful of change? Are you aware that you may be unaware o...

Success Equation
When I was in school, I never saw the point of being good at Math.  In my mind, success was about people, not about numbers.  But, there is one equation I use every day of my life. Problem + Cost = Opportunity. That little equation will open more doors than you ever thought possible.  It's simple. Everybody has a problem that is getting in the way.  It could be lack of money, time, or freedom.  It could also be an air conditioner has stopped working on a hot Summer day. If you want more personal and busines...


Starring In Your Own Dreams Come True
All children have dreams of what they will become when they grow up.  Not one of them aspires to live an unsatisfying life.  Every child wants to be the Star of their dream on true. Then life gets in the way.  You find yourself adulting your way through day-to-day life.  Inside you know there is more. Your subconscious knows you are a STAR and is trying to help - while you insist on putting off your dreams. Are you feeling like there’s something more for you in life.  Your subconscious is trying to tell you...

Law of Attraction and More
Law of Attraction and More Personal improvement is a journey that requires attention, rules, and guidance.  If you will open your eyes, the Universe has made them all available to you. The Law of Attraction is one of many Natural Laws.  When you recognize all of them, according to Plato, “They will lead you to act wisely.” Here are a few: Law of Vibration - Thoughts are one of the highest forms of vibrating energy.  What you think about, you bring about. Law of Polarity - Nothing can exist without it's oppo...

Entering Someone Else's Story
In coaching calls, I say, "You need to meet others where they are if you want to connect." Which is often followed by, "Why should I do that? I'm trying to get what I want." Seriously.  I hear that.  Let me explain: 1) Every person on the planet plays the Hero in their own story.  You are the star of your own movie. 2)  In day-to-day interactions, everything you do is to serve yourself first.  It is a primitive survival behavior. 3) If you want someone involved in your story, you must first insert yourself ...


Re-Building Your Foundation
Are you the kind of person who is fearful of change?  If that's the case, you are not alone.  Since humans are hard-wired for continuous transition and growth - it doesn't make much sense. What's happening here? Yes, you are seeking a better life.  This life-long effort is to strengthen your foundation.  The same on that has supported you since we were born.  Your desire to change conflicts with your desire to maintain what you have. What's the fix? As you transition to different stages of life your foundat...

Creating Your Plan
Every day I hear the same words from folks seeking to reach their full potential in life. "I'm confused!  All I need is a plan.  Please give me a step-by-step plan.  I'll do it.  Please tell me what to do!"  (No words or emphasis added) Yes, you need a plan.  Most folks have some idea of what they want.  Their confusion arrives from thinking they need only ONE plan.  That's not possible in today's complex world. Every plan always includes many individual decisions and action.  Those likely require a mini-pl...

Establishing Your Foundation
Success in life happens on top of a solid foundation of basic needs. In 1954, Abraham Maslow released Motivation and Personality. He expanded on his Hierarchy of Needs theory. Maslow suggested that to reach your full potential: 1) You must provide for your physiological needs.  Food, clothing, shelter, money, and more.  2) You must feel safe.   Personally, emotionally, financially, health and well-being, and against accidents and illness. 3) Socially you need to feel a sense of loving and belonging. 4)  Est...


Automatic Motivation
When the alarm clock goes off in the morning, do you jump out of bed ready to go?  Wouldn't it be nice if you could get all the motivation you needed - automatically?  There are 3 things to understand: 1) While you seek motivation externally, all motivation comes from within.  It's internal. 2) External inspiration is usually the catalyst for motivation - but it must move inward to activate. 3) Motivation is a direct result of clarity.  Once you get clear, you will be motivated. Remember - Motivation is an ...

30 Day Foundational Challenge
Only a crazy person says you can change everything about your life in 30 days - right? Call me crazy, but everything I've ever done had its roots in a 30-day sprint - and it's a long time.  A week is easy, crossing several weekends and life events will make it seem like forever.  Here's how you do it: 1) Set what Napoleon Hill calls a Major Definite Purpose, otherwise known as a big ass goal. 2) Stop that silly negative self-talk.  Others may throw sticks and stones; don't throw them at yourself. 3) Start t...

Master Your Mornings
Ask any successful person about the most crucial time of their day, and they'll say, "Mornings." How you use your morning hours sets the pace for your entire day - and less is more.  Let's keep this simple: 1)  Lose your excuse that mornings are crazy and there is no way to control the madness. Millions of people have lives like yours.  The successful and happy ones are taking a little time for themselves - in the morning. 2) Turn off your morning autopilot.  You might not be aware of morning behaviors that...


Cut and Control Your Clutter
Are you overwhelmed with the clutter in your life?  It's time to take a different approach. Clearing clutter from your life a big and never-ending challenge. Clutter will never stop building.  There will always be more.  Instead of stressing about all the stuff you need to unload from your life, why not curate your clutter. Emotional, physical, relationships or your job, everything in your life has some importance.  As Curator of your Clutter, your job is to prioritize and organize.  Your goal is to maintai...

Be Your Best Every Day
As you stroll through life, you will find opportunities that will present you with a choice - a VALUE choice.  Your response speaks volumes about your character. There's no right or wrong.  There is only your inner voice guiding you in the direction of your destiny.  One selection moves you away.  Another moves you closer to the person you want to be. Values are your GPS to navigate life.  Rules you choose to follow.  Honesty, integrity, family-focused life, work-life balance are all examples of positive Va...

Required Traits for Success
I've had many mentors in my life.  All of them made a point of validating that I possessed three characteristics for success.  Would you pass their test? 1) Do you have a burning desire to achieve your goal? 2) Are you a coachable person and prepared to accept wisdom and guidance of others? 3) Do you have the willingness to undertake all actions to achieve your success? Think about it. Wouldn't you want this in someone that was asking for your help?  Walk your talk.  Talk your walk.  That's a great life....


Endless Opportunity Mindset
Sometimes I remember the beginning of my career.  I was young, eager, driven, and intimidated.  How can I reach my dreams with all the people and competition in the world?  Here's what I learned: 1) Somewhere in those crowds is a person who needs my help.  I'm sure they feel frustrated, desperate, and don't know where to find me. 2) My job is to help them find me.  When they do, they won't believe their luck.  I bet they're nervous I won't accept their offer.  3) I always remember to be grateful, humble and...

Nothing Happens Without Motivation
A long time ago, Zig Ziglar said, "Without Motivation, Nothing Happens."  Doesn't that make you want to read another book, go to a seminar, or listen to a podcast? Yes, doing that will make you feel better, but will it get you what you want? A more sustainable way is to get excited about what is possible.  True motivation comes from inside of you. Take the smallest step in the direction of your dreams and feel the excitement in your heart.  Keep moving and it becomes motivation....

Career Success Mindset
A long time ago you found yourself graduating high school and thrust into real-life. I'm sure you gave lots of thought to your future.  Then again, you were young.  Twenty years later things can look very different. Over the years, I've learned something about working for a living: 1) Chasing money, advancement, and being significant will keep you busy.  It will also blind you from other areas of life you would enjoy. 2) Pursuing passion and mission without considering real-life is a recipe for frustration....


Building Confidence and Self-Esteem
Do you have goals and dreams?  If so, Confidence and Self Esteem will play a significant role. Confidence is feeling good about your worth or abilities; self-respect. Self Esteem is a feeling of self-assurance.   An appreciation for your abilities or qualities. You need both, and you get them through your daily experience. Remember - Everything you do today is an opportunity to become a more self-confidence person.  A person who appreciates you and has self-respect. There is no secret to building self-estee...

Multiply Your Action
Have you noticed?   As soon as you initiate action toward a goal - a million other distractions arrive in your life? Etch this into your mind: Activity creates activity. No matter what you choose to take on, your energy will attract the attention.  You will discover everything you need to succeed.  It will also draw everything required to through you off track.  That’s okay.  You can harness this power to get what you want. Don’t get stuck.  Sharpen your focus, shift gears and accelerate yourself into massi...

Life Changing Questions
You should answer these questions every few months. Your ability to focus is crucial as you move forward.  Answering these questions will help: 1) What do you want to do? 2) What do you want to have? 3) Where do you want to go? 4) What contribution do you want to make? 5) What do you want to become? 6) What do you want to learn? 7) Who do you want to spend my time? 8) How much money do you want to earn, save, invest?...


Stairway To Success
I’m a fan of the television show, Shark Tank.  I love their realistic approach to success.  On a recent episode, Lori Greiner made a quick comment that caught my attention.  She said, “There are no express elevators to success.  Everybody has to take up the stairs.” That’s some old-school, been there done that advice.  Something you don’t hear too often these days - except folks who have already walked your path. If you want quick success, take the stairs.  You’ll arrive long before those who are still wait...

The Myth of Balance
The Myth of Balance I always hear, "My goal is to balance my life better." As if balancing is static and can be achieved and maintained once you have it. Balance is dynamic, fleeting, ever-changing, and always challenging. Sure, it feels good when you reach equilibrium, but what about all that fun you had on your way there? I learned about balance when I worked in radio. My job was to balance the new music everyone wanted to hear old music folks love to remember. We balanced male, female, bands, duo's, and...

Closing Doors to Open Others
Closing Doors to Open Others Are you the kind of person who requires that your ducks be in a row before you getting something new? The standard advice is never stopping one thing until you have another. Don't quit your job. Don't buy a new house. Don't change your school major. Don't, don't, don't. Is that making you happy? Are you unsatisfied with what you have?  Is your complaining speaking louder than your actions? Maybe it's time to dump what's not working and go for what you want? Life is much too shor...


Replace Yourself
Have you noticed that there is never enough time in the day to soak up everything that life has to offer? It's time to replace yourself.  No matter what you do in life, getting some help might be your best choice.  From the most mundane to the exciting, there are lots of people who would love to help you enjoy your life. Why?  Because doing so helps them enjoy their life. The rule is simple - Do what you love; do what you do well. Just because you have done something for your entire life does not mean that ...

Busy With The Buzz
Are you getting caught up in the buzz of life while running crazy toward your goals?  Friends, family, co-workers, society - all would make you believe that you need to run faster to get what you want. That's not true.  Moving at 1,000 miles per hour is fun - especially when it is fueled by your passion.  However, it's only okay when you focus on your dream life.   Take a moment and evaluate your progress today.  Are you buzzing for the sake of buzzing?  Or, are you busy creating your dream life?...

Stop Learning. Start Doing.
Have you ever felt something was holding you back?  Maybe you're spending too much time learning. What is going on? Your mind can't tell the difference between perception and reality.  It's confusing learning and doing.  That's why it's so easy to get caught up stuffing your brain with new information - not working toward your goal. Keep this in mind: 1) Learning is fun and required to make a better life. 2) Learning alone will not create results. 3) At some point, you must apply what you learn. Don't get s...


Are You Willing To Jump?
Are You Willing To Jump? Steve Harvey is a funny guy. He's also a wise man. Have you seen his teaching on the one thing you must do if you want to be successful? He says, "You must jump. If you want to be successful, you must jump into your dreams, take a leap of faith, and go for it." Many times we stand on the cliff of life and watch others enjoying the life you desire. They jumped, their parachute opened, and life is good. You must jump. When you finally decide to jump, your parachute will not open right...

Getting Excited About Everything
Accelerating Goal Achievement I'm feeling the need to pass along a way achieve your goals faster than you thought possible. If you are ready for success to arrive, here are three simple rules to help you realize your dreams: 1) Play to your strength. Do what is comfortable for you. 2) Only to commit to activities that will lead you to your goal. 3) Never let a day pass without reminding yourself of your strengths. Consciously direct your focus. You can reach your goals faster when you avoid the distractions...

Massive Imperfect Action
Massive Imperfect Action Do you love the feeling you get when an exiting idea pops into your head? The most appealing aspect of anything new in your life always happens at the beginning. When it’s still a dream inside your head. It’s only when it’s time to take actual action that folks slow down - fast! Here’s how to break free: 1) Dreams only come true when you take massive action and establish momentum. 2) Fear of the unknown will stop you. What do I do? Where do I start? Will it work? No worries. One wor...


Reinventing Yourself Instantly
Why do folks get so stressed out about reinventing themselves? It's so simple when you understand - Getting something different in life always requires taking a different action.  Those actions are "change" that you are applying to your life.  All change happens in an instant.  A simple course correction alters your life journey. Yes, it's that easy. There's no need to sit around waiting for your future.  Take a different action and be on a new path.   Stand up.  Take a step.  REPEAT!   You know you want it...

Reinventing Your Perfect Day
What if every day, for the rest of your life, was perfect?  You know what they say?  "If you build it, they will come." The sub-conscious mind is a beautiful thing.  You can engage its power to create your Average Perfect Day.  Here's how - 1) Write down an exact, event-by-event vision of what your perfect day would be.  Yes, it's a bit of a fantasy - for now. 2)  As you write, there are no rules.  No limitations.  No consequences.  Don't be shy.  Be honest about what you want. 3)  Believe it can be y...

Value Drive Life Reinvention
Values are a funny thing.  Values live inside you and guide you.  They are who you are as a person.  Whether you think about them or not, you express your Values every minute of your life. If you want to know the secret to using Values to create change in your life - it's your lucky day. The person you are on the inside is a direct result of the millions of life experiences you've had since you were born.  They form your Identity.  If you want to reinvent your life, choose different experiences while you go...


Reinventing Yourself
Is it possible to reinvent yourself?  Sure!  After all, you've been doing it your entire life.  Imagine what would happen if you did it on purpose? Here's something to think about during your personal Operation Reinvention: 1) If things are not satisfying, accept it and move toward something new and exciting. 2) Focus your energy on the future.  Pushing harder to make what you don't like better will only give you more of what you already have. 3) Concentrate on long-term goals.  If you don't, you will find ...

Focusing On Yourself First
Not a day goes by that I don't have conversations with people who want to make the world a better place. I smile and ask, “What kind of work are you doing on yourself to make that happen?" There is usually silence - then. “Work on me? Why? I want to help others, not myself?” Socrates said, ”Let him that who would move the world first move himself." Smart guy. Focus on taking care of yourself first. Your positive energy will radiate into the word. We all need that....

How Bad Do You Want Your Dreams
You have the opportunity to begin new relationships every day.  Some are random. Some you choose.  When you follow the rules of the networking game, things always work out better. 1) It isn't about you. 2) You will always come from a place of trust. 3) You won't have an agenda. 4) You will listen first. 5) You will focus on the person - not the opportunity. 6)  Everything you need to know will come soon enough. 7)  Your posture dictates theirs. 8)  You will not worry about the outcome.  9)  Consider how you...


Networking Power Tips
You have the opportunity to begin new relationships every day.  Some are random. Some you choose.  When you follow the rules of the networking game, things always work out better. 1) It isn't about you. 2) You will always come from a place of trust. 3) You won't have an agenda. 4) You will listen first. 5) You will focus on the person - not the opportunity. 6)  Everything you need to know will come soon enough. 7)  Your posture dictates theirs. 8)  You will not worry about the outcome.  9)  Consider how you...

Are Your Friends Holding You Back?
The success and happiness that you in your life is a direct result of something your Mom was always asking - Who are your friends? If they are positive, you will be positive.  Are they negative?  You will be negative.  If they have money, you will have money.  Are they broke?  You get my point. Your life will become exactly like the people that are closest to you.  Choose wisely....

Better Relationships. Better Life.
The quality of your life is a direct result of your relationships.  Tony Robbins said that.  Whether it's a personal, professional, or business relationship.  There are three ways to play the relationship game.  There is only one way to win. 1)  All relationships begin with two independent individuals.  If you remain independent, you will never connect. 2) Some relationships become co-dependent.  Developing this kind of relationship means losing individuality.  Isn't that what attracted you in the first pla...


Essential Life Goals
Over the years most folks have concluded that setting goals are the beginning of all success.  However, too many goals can also stop you in your tracks. Huh? The experience of working toward essential life goals will always make you happier.  Too many goals will distract you from your real purpose.  Most successful folks I know have three to five "important" goals at any time.  Keeping it simple allows you to focus on what's important with little to no effort.  Anything more is nothing more than a someday/m...

Give Up What You Are NOT
Are you striving for something different and confused about where to begin? I have a client who, after years of poor eating habits, had become over 100 pounds overweight.  She decided to get healthy.  She also had no idea how. My advice was simple. If your mind is telling you something you are doing is NOT who you are - just give up what you are NOT. In her case, she knew lousy food because she had been eating it for years.  She gave it up.  She didn't have time to go to the gym.  She gave up what was stopp...

Building Your Bridge to Change
Not a day goes by that I don't hear about one of my clients building a bridge to a new life. They are following a simple truth. If you want to change your life; you must accept that there is a gap between where you are, and where you want to go. Before you can have new, you must build a solid foundation to support your current life.  There's no running from reality.  No quitting your job.  No ditching your lease. You also must build a solid foundation for your future.  Learning, saving, planning, acting. As...


Productivity of Simplicity
Productivity of Simplicity I flew to Amarillo, Texas for a client visit a few years ago.  He picked me up at the airport and said, “I hope you don’t mind riding along - I have three things to do today.” Three things?  That’s it? The first was a bank deposit.  The second was my payment.  I was waiting for the third when he said, “That’s it, my friend.  The rest of my day is all about you. Yes, our project for the day included a thousand tasks.  It didn’t matter.  In our minds, we only had one thing left on o...

Journey. Destination. Repeat.
Life is a long and winding road.  It has many ups and downs, and a few surprises along the way. Here's what you can expect: 1)  Follow your passion and the money will arrive.  It may take longer than you think.  It may be less than you think.  It doesn't matter.  You'll be happy. 2) Nothing will happen until you move from daydreaming to daily action. 3)  The road will be rough.  Then it will smooth out.  Then it will be rough again. 4) Whatever path you thought you would travel will change. 5)  You will fin...

No Monkey On Your Back
Sometime today, a well-meaning person is going to detour you from your dreams.  They are going to solve a problem for them.  Sure, you want to help.  But, what about your problems? You have enough monkey's on your back already without taking on those of others.  Right? Before you say, "Yes," consider how much it may take you off track.  It's okay to say, "No thanks." The only person protecting your goals, dreams, and daily action is YOU.  Stay focused on YOUR plan....


Goal Setting Refresher Course
In 1979 interviewers asked potential Harvard MBA candidates - "Have you set clear, written goals for your future and made plans to accomplish them?" 3% answered yes. 10 years later that 3% was earning, on average, ten times as much as the other 97 percent combined. Goal setting is simple: 1) State exactly WHAT you want. 2) State WHY you want it. 3) Imagine how you are going to feel when you reach your goal. 4) Plan the steps you will take. 5) Take continuous action. 6) Measure your progress. 7) Be flexible ...

Separating Un-important From Important
Have you noticed that life can be busy?  It seems that you never have time for what is important. I'm sure you find time to eat, sleep, pay bills, feed the dog, take care of your family - among dozens of "important" tasks.  Here's the truth - No matter how much you accomplish today - there will be more stuff to do tomorrow.   That will never end. Since the Universe gives you 24-hours a day to do as you please - why not spend some time working on your dreams? That other stuff can wait while you play....

Traits of Greatness
Are you having a difficult time being YOU? Keep these greatness traits in mind: 1) Use your imagination to form images, ideas, and sensations in your mind.  Do it without the help of others.  Trust yourself. 2) Be enthusiastic and live with excitement and passion.  Only do things that feel right for you. 3) Practice persistence.  Life is long.  Learn to love being persistent.  It will serve you well. 4) Have faith.  Live your life in complete trust and confidence.  Have faith in yourself.  A life well lived...


Formula For Getting What You Want
Are you living intentionally? You are one-third of the way to getting what you want.  Would you like it all? Everything begins with intention.  However, even though you can win a trophy for having good intentions, you will rarely win the game of life.  That takes a formula: Intention + Decision + Action = Happy life. When an exciting thought pops into your head, decide to get into action mode and make it happen.  That's a happy life....

Living a Life of Goal Setting
Are you excited to be alive today?  If not, it might be time to become an intentional goal setter. Goals are the heartbeat of your life.  They are tangible expressions of the values you hold and how you act out what you feel inside.  Goals create the experiences of your life. Goals are also automatic.  If you don't set them for yourself, the Universe and every person you meet will set them for you. You get to decide what you want.  You get to set your goals.  You get to create your life experience.  Always ...

Don't Be a Negotiating Underdog
Life is series of negotiations. The progress you make.  The success you enjoy.  The happiness you experience.  Everything is a direct result of your negotiation skill. Since you negotiate for everything, why is it that you sometimes feel like you won't succeed? Here's a little secret. Whenever two or more folks negotiate, everybody is hoping to find common ground.  Everyone knows they can only get what they want if others do too.  Everybody feels like the other person has an advantage. Now you know that eve...


Get More done With Less Stress
It's a new week.  I'm sure you have a lot to do.  If you use a To-Do list, I'd like to pass on some advice that will make your days much more fun. LOSE your "To-Do List."  Replace it with a "Did I Do It List." To-Do Lists make you a slave to the checkmark.  They cause more stress the longer they get. A "Did I Do It List" assumes you know what must be done.  Instead of chasing, you are checking to make sure you did it. An un-focused path produces additional task to fill your day.  Using a "Did I Do It List" ...

Quantum Decision Making
Do you ever have difficulty making decisions? In the next 60 seconds, you can harness the most potent and easy to use decision-making tool I have ever found. Forget the old "Pro and Con" list your Mom and Dad taught you. It’s time for a new approach. The next time you find yourself challenged use Quantum Linguistics. Ask yourself these 4 simple questions to solve your problem: What would happen if I DID? What would happen if I DIDN'T? What wouldn't happen if I DID? What wouldn't happen if I DIDN'T? Unusual...

Amending Your Constitution
I was on the phone with a client when she mentioned that she uses a personal constitution to guide her life.  She wrote the document 25 years ago.  It has never seen an amendment.  She's is not very happy either. By definition, a constitution never changes.  Your most important beliefs and core values should change easily.  Yet, you grow wiser, you should be willing to consider amending and updating how you feel about the world. Your core values alter with your daily life experiences like it or not.  Taking...


Golden Circle of Influence
Are you going to influence the world today? Getting what you want in life usually begins by knowing what you want and believing you can get it.  That influences others to help you. Simon Sinek calls it, "The Golden Circle." If you're like most folks, you spend a good amount of your time focusing on "What" you want and "How" you're going to get it. Your "Why" tends to arrive last. That might be why you find yourself wandering in the direction of what you think you want. And, nobody can help you get there bec...

Power of Pain and Pleasure
They are two forces that rule everything you do.  Pain and Pleasure. Included in Stoic Philosophy in 300 BC, it's three rules are easy to understand and apply: 1)  Most decisions you make and actions you take have the goal of attracting pleasure into your life. 2)  When things get challenging, decision and actions become focused on avoiding pain.  Your mission is to get back to pleasure. 3)  Avoiding pain will always overrule seeking pleasure. Before you take action, acknowledge what is driving your behavio...

Stand Up. Take a Step. Repeat.
It's the world's simplest recipe for success; Stand up, take a step, REPEAT!  A member wrote asking the best use of such simple advice.  Here's how to get started in 5 minutes or less: 1)  Stop whatever you are doing.  Block out everything. Focus on YOU. 2)  Find a place where nobody will interrupt you for at least 5 minutes. 3) Ask yourself, "How is my life going?"  Open your mind and let your thoughts flow into the different areas and roles of your life.  Bring them into focus. 4)  For things going well, ...


Daily Rules of Happiness
Did you know that happy people see the world differently? No, they don't wear rose-colored glasses.  They have a better way: 1)  Happy people realize that being alive includes challenges.    2) Happy people accept that challenges are a privilege that come with being alive. 3) Happy people get frustrated but don't give up.  Challenges mean everything is normal. 4) Happy people accept responsibility for solving challenges. 5)  Happy people deal with everything life can throw at them, get a great night’s sleep...

Get Clear on Your Choices
The most common question that crosses my desktop is, "How do I decide what to do?"  Common sense would say, "you can't move forward when you don't have clarity in your direction."  Are your choices are getting in the way? Are you focusing on your options or are you paying more attention the consequences?  That can be dark and scary. The secret is to realize that you are out of your comfort and feeling naked. The consequences of your choices are not always evil.  The grass is usually greener on the other sid...

Take Command of Your Life
I like flying little airplanes. Over the years I've learned a lesson; I don't have to ask permission to go where I want to go.  It's always up to me to choose my destination. I'm what the FAA refers to as the Pilot in Command - the Boss of the airplane.   I have total control to decide on my goal and plan my journey.  I'm also required to tell Air Traffic Control where I'm traveling.  Their job is to make sure I arrive safely. There is no requesting permission and no negotiating.  I call ATC on the radio, t...


Problem Solving The Natural Way
Problem Solving The Natural Way Have you ever noticed how many tips, tricks, and strategies you keep using to get what you want? Are you running faster and faster, getting less done, with more frustration? You are living in "Tactic Mode." Everybody tackles everyday tasks using tactics. They are perfect for getting things done, but not ideal for living your purpose. For that, you need to spend more time living and acting according to Values. Tactics are short-term, always changing, and never-ending. Values a...

Choosing Good People in Your Life
Choosing Good People in Your Life With 7.4 million people on the planet, how many will you need to meet to get the success you desire? Yes, that’s a trick question. You should be asking - How few people can you meet to get what you want as fast as possible? It's less than you think. You can speed your progress by refining your target. Seek to attract people and opportunities that you believe would be a good match. Then, sift and sort until only those relationships that are a perfect match remain. Let all ot...

Master Your Motivation. Master Your Life.
No matter how long-term your goals, mastering your daily motivation skill set is a must. That's how you create momentum and success. Your first goal is simple. Accept that you are responsible for the daily discipline of moving yourself forward. Big goals get completed with continuous and focused daily actions. 1) Having the motivation to progress every day is a foundational skill. Do whatever it takes to "stay in the game." 2) Daily Motivation Mastery is easier when you define your big picture. What are you...


Today Not Possible. Tomorrow Possible.
Today Not Possible.  Tomorrow Possible. American Taekwondo Grand Master, H.U. Lee gave volumes of advice during his life of service.  In my view, his best was also his shortest: "Today Not Possible.  Tomorrow Possible." Today is a new day.  Yesterday prepared you for today.  If today doesn't go as planned - you always have tomorrow....