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Savage Love Episode 472

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Savage Love Episode 472

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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

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Hear the sordid tale of what the gay man saw when he woke up to find his boyfriend absent from the guest bed while they were visiting a …friend. Meanwhile in another corner of the cheat-o-verse, a man sees his best friend’s girlfriend on a daitng app. He thought they were monogamous. Should he rat her out to his pal? On the Magnum, Dan brings on a couple of guests. Debra Soh is a writer whose latest article in Salon ruffled some feathers. She wrote about our dysfunctional approach to treating pedophiles and the people started freaking. And, Dan brings on OB/GYN and writer Dr. Jen Gunter to discuss abortion and concept of a “little soul.” Do you have a family? Do you want to ask a question about them? Call us! 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage This episode is also sponsored by Clone-A-Willy- everything you need to make a vibrating, silicone replica of any penis in the comfort of your own home. Enter promo code: SAVAGE at checkout for 10% off your order.

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