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Savage Love Episode 484

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Savage Love Episode 484

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

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If you are a straight girl, is it ok to seek friendship with a lesbian? Even if she has a girlfriend? (Actual question. Actually asked.) A young man is dating a former anorexic, former model and the sex is great. But! She is still living at home and has burned through all of her allowance, and now has $3 to last her all month. The young man is beginning to doubt the wisdom of dating this hot mess. And…football! Mike Pesca from The Gist joins Dan to sportsplain the complicated psychology behind being a “Bengals” fan. A woman and her father’s relationship depends on this. It is very important. On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Ilir Agalliu on his new HPV study. And a ton more. 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off if you order before Valentine’s Day when you enter offer code "Savage". The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.

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