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Savage Love Episode 522

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Savage Love Episode 522

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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

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A man has been with his boyfriend for 1.5 years. The caller's family is loving and welcoming to the boyfriend. But the boyfriend's family won't accept his homosexuality and won't allow the caller to join them at Thanksgiving etc. How long must our caller wait for his boyfriend to grow a pair, and tell his family to piss off already?   Next up, we'll just share the title of this call: "Take Your Chances at the All-Girl Orgy?" NOW you're gonna listen aren't you?   On the Magnum, Dan chats with the hosts of One Bad Mother, a delightful parenting podcast, about some gnarly situations parents find themselves in.   And, a woman is excited to start having three-ways with her boyfriend. EXCEPT. He's a terrible lover, and the caller worries his lack of skill will queer the deal. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to Blue Apron.com/savage.   The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Headspace, the guided meditation app that will help you focus and reduce stress. Learn more at headspace.com/savage   This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For $20 off your first order, and complimentary shipping, go to TryWinc.com/savage.

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