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Savage Love Episode 567

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Savage Love Episode 567

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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

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A couple are dismayed that the condom keeps slipping off when they're doing it doggie style. Dan offers some time-honored tricks. Disability Awareness Consultant Andrew Gurza, schools us all about dating folks with disabilities. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Jesse Bering about penis size and natural selection. Science! And speaking of penises, can you pump that thing up and make it bigger in the same way you can stretch an earlobe? 206-302-2064 Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Five Four Club fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at Five Four Club when you use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Thrive Market, the new convenient way to get the highest quality, natural, organic groceries delivered to your door. Try it for FREE for 30 days and get an extra 20% off at ThriveMarket.com slash Savage.   This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Audible.com/savage.

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