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Savage Love Episode 595

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Savage Love Episode 595

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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

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A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and cultural critic Alana Massey on the misguided Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA.) A woman's best friend has a husband who calls her a "horrible wife" and "slut" under his breath. The caller isn't quite ready to dump this so-called friend and her nasty husband because their social circles are so intertwined. Still. Being called a slut, by your friend's husband? Under his breath??! 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale

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